Sign up for our newsletters Subscribe When it comes to leather sex toys, it's best to start small QMy name is Nancy, and I'm My boyfriend's name is Carl, we have been together for almost a year—our anniversary is actually February 14! I want to do something sexy for us on our anniversary. I plan on being with Carl for years to come, and I don't want the sex to become monotonous. For a while, I've wanted to go to a sex store to purchase a few things to spice things up.
I found a supportive, nonjudgmental friend who wants a few kinky things for her and her boyfriend. As you can imagine, we're both excited to go on this adventure, but there's just one problem: I have no idea what to buy! Neither does my friend! I was hoping you had a few essentials that my friend and I should know about or consider purchasing. My boyfriend and I have never used such things, but I'm positive that with your help making the right purchases, he will be all for it!
Both my friend and I are college students, so we're on a budget. I just want to keep our relationship going strong and keep things interesting between us sexually. By which I mean to say. Not all women are to all men's tastes, not all men are to all women's, and not all sex acts appeal equally to all. Likewise, sex toys that I might buy for my partner—sex toys I might be inclined to mention when asked to recommend one or two—might not appeal to your boyfriend.
I'll go further than that: Instead of buying the sex toys that turn me or my husband on, it would be better to go shopping and find a few things that turn you on. And instead of shopping with your friend, you might want to go shopping with your boyfriend. But if you want to surprise your boyfriend—and that's legit, and lots of people surprise their partners with sex toys on Valentine's Day—I asked a few sex-toy merchants I like and trust for recommendations for you.
Smart sex-toy shoppers use a process of elimination. First, commit to a budget that you are comfortable with. Second, ask yourself what you want to do with it. Then go with the most versatile toy possible. Try out the vibrating dildo by Pleasure Works called the Right Spot.
This affordable toy is great for G-spot or prostate stimulation, comes with a removable vibrator, and can be sterilized easily! The Right Spot will keep up with your changing sexual tastes for years to come! She asked for the essentials, and that means vibrators and lube. It consists of three vibrators: These rate as good starter toys because they're easy to use, they're unobtrusive and friendly looking, and they deliver a lot of power.
She should take home a hardy lubricant like BabeLube or Sliquid as well. Don't be scared to pick things up and turn things on that's if the shop provides floor models like we do. It's really important to be able to feel the material and what levels and types of vibrations different toys produce. Don't be afraid to ask the staff questions—that's what we're here for. If the sex shop in your town is not very helpful when it comes to questions, then do some research before you go shopping.
On our blog, we have a great guides section that gives advice, from choosing your first vibrator to detailed instructions on how to use a cock ring. Last but not least, make sure the toys you are buying are body safe—there are lots of toys out there that you do not want to be putting in your body. Don't let the gas masks and floggers and cock locks oh, my! It's okay to start small and simple. Consider buying two blindfolds—one for each of you—and go at it while you're both wearing them.
The feeling of having sex with all your other senses heightened may just ignite a new kinky spark in your love life, and that would definitely fight off routine, monotonous sex.
Maybe one day, rather than thinking outside the box, you'll be keeping your boyfriend's cock locked inside one! You want to work your way up to the fucksaw. Asking for a friend. So your friend should get out there. Download the Savage Lovecast every Tuesday at thestranger.