Virgin -- something that many women are now embarrassed to claim that they are but, paradoxically, is also a boasting point for the macho Bollywood superstar, Salman Khan. Virgin -- something that your nosy relatives and neighbours, and your parents secretly hope you are and your friends hope you are not.
Virgin -- the one attribute that will increase your 'value' in the marriage market while simultaneously bringing down your cool quotient. Virgin -- a prime example of damned if you do, damned if you don't. Is it good or bad to be a virgin? The debate is unlikely to get over any time soon. In the meantime, there are people who are suffering in silence because they are too embarrassed to accept that they are virgins and are unable to say that they are not.
One such individual asked people on Quora if it is acceptable to be a virgin at She posted, " Is it bad being a virgin in India for a female who is 25 years old? The responses also highlighted the unnecessary pressure a lot of women put on themselves.
Posting her query, the user also mentioned, "Most of my friends aren't virgins and they always pester me to explore the sexual world which makes me think that being a virgin is bad. There is no way to win this. As one respondent, Varun Khullar , put it, "I mean why is there a fuss around being virgin?
I mean if someone is a virgin then people have an issue and if someone is not then also it's a problem. We need to ignore all this. No one should be put under pressure to do something with their bodies that they are not comfortable doing. It depends on your sexual appetite Remember sex is just a part of life, not everything.
Do it when u feel like it," he wrote. Just live the way u want to. He cautioned though that one should be careful while taking such decisions. You continue to be yourself and decide. It is your life. You are not making a mistake or committing a crime. Any experience, sexual or otherwise, is only good when it's chosen.
If you haven't got any moment or opportunity to experience anything sexual, it's just fine Yes, you should read about this subject, talk to your nears and dears about it to understand cos being a totally naive person may not be that good I hope whenever you get to have the experience, it's going to be good one and memorable one.
And ensure that it's going to safe. The male respondents seem to agree that there are no rules that one must follow here, nor any compulsions. Forcing oneself into a sexual encounter just for the sake of it is probably not worth it. Whether to have sex, when to have it and with who -- it is all a matter of personal choice.
Without saying it in as many words, 'society' has been told to butt out. Some of the Quora responses have been mildly edited for clarity and brevity.