It can also be used to gain experience for solo writers who want to write more realistic sex scenes, by exchanging ideas like sex position. One approach to cybering is a simulation of "real" sex, when participants try to make the experience as close to real life as possible, with participants taking turns writing descriptive, sexually explicit passages.
Alternatively, it can be considered a form of sexual roleplay that allows the participants to experience unusual sexual sensations and carry out sexual experiments they cannot try in reality. Amongst "serious" roleplayers, cybering may occur as part of a larger plot—the characters involved may be lovers or spouses. In situations like this, the people typing often consider themselves separate entities from the "people" engaging in the sexual acts, much as the author of a novel often does not completely identify with his or her characters.
Due to this difference, such roleplayers typically prefer the term "erotic roleplay" rather than cybersex to describe it. In "real cybering" personas often remain in character throughout the entire life of the contact, to include evolving into phone sex, and meatspace encounters while in character, as a form of improvisation , or, nearly, a performance art.
Advantages[ edit ] Cybersex provides various advantages: Since cybersex can satisfy some sexual desires without the risk of a sexually transmitted disease STD or pregnancy, it is a physically safe way for young people such as with teenagers to experiment with sexual thoughts and emotions.
Additionally, people with long-term ailments including HIV can engage in cybersex as a way to safely achieve sexual gratification without putting their partners at risk. Cybersex allows real-life partners who are physically separated to continue to be sexually intimate. In geographically separated relationships, it can function to sustain the sexual dimension of a relationship in which the partners see each other only infrequently face to face.
Also, it can allow partners to work out problems that they have in their sex life that they feel uncomfortable bringing up otherwise. For example, it can enable participants to act out fantasies which they would not act out or perhaps would not even be realistically possible in real life through roleplaying due to physical or social limitations  and potential for misunderstanding, such as extreme BDSM , incest , zoophilia , pedophilia , or even rape.
It takes less effort and fewer resources on the Internet than in real life to connect to a person like oneself or with whom a more meaningful relationship is possible. Cybersex allows each user to take control. For example, each party has complete control over the duration of a webcam session.
Criticism[ edit ] Cybersex is often criticized because the partners frequently have little verifiable knowledge about each other. And herein lies the rub, or so we will argue. By continuing to draw off that ambivalent faith, techno-sex and the many other practices of disembodying interaction contribute to a changing and increasingly abstracted dominant ontology of embodiment. While it does not involve physical contact, critics claim that the powerful emotions involved can cause marital stress, especially when cybersex culminates in an Internet romance.
In several known cases, Internet adultery became the grounds for which a couple divorced.