When a fixed male cat humps, it may be because they were neutered at an older age. Henry the Humping Cat I've had two male cats that were fixed and yet they continued to mount and hump.
At first, it seemed funny, but then it became annoying. My late cat Santapaws was a stray. He was a very gentle and mild-mannered cat. Santapaws didn't want to hump humans, his preference was stuffed animals or mounds of blankets and other comfy items. Usually, I left him alone and just let him do his thing. It wasn't until we adopted Henry that this activity really started to bother me. Henry is roughly three years old and about 15 lbs. He's a larger boy. I don't have dates or paperwork on when he was fixed, but I assume it was when he was just a little kitty.
About four months after we got Henry he starting trying to mount up. I was his favorite target! Henry is not by nature an alpha male. He gets skittish around new people and sounds. He is afraid of ceiling fans when they are not even running. I've had "play dates" with him and other cats and he is not dominant at all. I was not surprised by Henry's behavior. I am the primary cat caregiver, feeding him, clean his box, handling all his healthcare, bathing, and grooming.
I am extremely affectionate with all my cats, spoiling and carrying them around like babies. In my mind, being in bed is not complete until you have a warm purring cat curled at your feet. I thought Henry was being affectionate and just getting carried away, but as the months went on I started to lose my patience. When I shooed him away he left scratch marks on my arms. It was humiliating when women came over to visit—Henry was always on the lookout for his next victim!
Instead of having a nice, warm lap kitty, I had a maniac that wouldn't stop! He was climbing at me and mounting any limb he could get his paws on, every chance he could get. When I pulled away or shooed him, he'd get upset and make mad mewing sounds and evil faces at me. Within minutes he'd be back to try it again! He followed me from chair to couch. At night when I tried to sleep, he'd go after my feet.
Something had to change! Does your kitty hump? Have you ever had a male cat try to hump you?! Male cats hump for many reasons. It is typically not a sexual behavior, although it can be. Some things to know about cat humping and what can cause it: Having a kitty "fixed" at an older age can cause this behavior.
It's normal and natural for a male cat to enjoy the sexual pleasure he may experience from this activity. Some cats that hump are insecure or need extra affection. Trauma can cause humping. If your cat is bored, frustrated, or feeling too confined. Changes in the household, such as new members pets or humans. Some cats hump to be more "alpha" or dominant. The Warning Signs He may exhibit these signs when he's fueling up for his hump-fest: If they begin to dilate, he is likely getting ready to hump you.
Put him on the floor immediately when you see this signal and ignore him. Watch out if he becomes overly affectionate! Sometimes this sign means he's getting all turned on, much like a human would. If you are petting him and he begins to mew and purr and knead very excitedly and aggressively, he may be getting ready to go.
Stop the affection and place him on the floor. Never ever hit or abuse a kitty that does this actually, never hit or abuse a kitty ever! They don't learn from abuse. Positive reinforcement is key. When your cat begins this behavior, remove him from the situation.
This can be as simple as picking him up, hugging and kissing him, and kindly but firmly telling him "No! Every time your cat comes back to begin his activity, repeat the suggestion above. Grooming your cat is also another thing that helps. It gives them the attention they may be craving and provides bonding for you both. It's also good for the kitty. When the cat starts the nonsense, play with him and his favorite toys.
Have him run around the house to burn off that abundance of physical energy When he stops the behavior, reward him by saying "Good boy! Don't go overboard on this one like I did, Henry gained some unwanted weight! The most important thing is to be patient as you try these suggestions. I actually suggest using them all in appropriate settings. If repetition does not modify your cat's behavior, you may want to consider having him seen by a vet to rule out any medical causes or issues.
As an absolute last resort, a vet can also offer anti-depressant medications. With patience and perseverance, you should have the nice snugly kitty you desire in a month or so.
Lazy cat Henry is for the most part, a good lazy boy now. Instead of being humped by my cat, he now gently makes biscuits kneads on my belly or limbs. Occasionally I have to remind him that I, as well as other female humans, are not his girlfriend. For the most part, he is a gentleman. I am confident that if I keep up my regimen of "no humping rules" I will only see improvement. I adore cats, and dealing with this issue is a price I'm willing to pay for the love and companionship felines offer.
Other than Henry begging like a dog during dinnertime, and humping if I don't remind him not too, he has been a perfect fit for our household and family. Another bonus is that most cats grow out of this behavior as they age. So even if you can't eliminate this behavior entirely, find relief in the fact that eventually age and nature will run its course and your kitty will mellow out!