Suburban swingers with provehicletive ideas about how to make marriage work. You could call their lifestyle the neighborhood's worst-kept secret because many of their neighbors are in on it. It's openly living in an open marriage. Is it the key to long-term coupling? Here's ABC's Rachel smith. We are making a birthday cake for our son's birthday tomorrow. They are the picture of domestic bliss. Tony and Diana working together in the kitchen. We have three kids. They married five years ago.
Their wedding picture looking every bit traditional. But their marriage ever since, well, it's been anything but traditional.
But don't worry, we won't attack you. Unless you're into that. Tony and Diana have an open marriage, meaning they're not monogamous.
And when they're unapologetically open about, part of a growing community of people just like them. Who are not afraid to share it with the world. Some say there are now an estimated 15 million swingers across the country. Is it not weird to see your wife having sex with someone else? This is so awkward to answer, but yeah. I actually very much enjoy -- it's an extension of myself.
It's watching her pleased and stuff from different angles. I feel awkward saying all of this. Here's being high and being low and being in. To the eye it looks like a typical, Normal American neighborhood. We visited their home in the suburbs of Cincinnati, Ohio. One of the most conservative parts of the country.
Politically, a swing state, now a state that may come to be known for its swingers. You're such a girl sometimes. Look what you're wearing. It doesn't matter what I wear, I always look good. Although their relationship is open, Tony and Diana say they follow strict guidelines to keep their marriage healthy.
Their number one rule? They only have sex with others together. Because, again, it's got to be about us. If we are separated it doesn't make sense to us. Other rules keep their lifestyle in check. If we didn't meet you in the lifestyle and we were friends before, we will not ever cross that boundary. I'm comfortable with Tony individually texting another girl. You know, I guess I could look at his phone at any point in time if I wanted to.
What are the downsides to being in the lifestyle? Jealousy is always a big issue for some people. Especially first getting involved in the lifestyle. It's a hurdle that you have to get used to. One of our hurdles is finding a couple we're both mutually attracted to.
You might call them spokespeople for swingers. They're not shy when it comes to teaching others the ins and outs of swinging. I'm pretty sure after you come Friday that you'll be a little more motivated. Give the person of your choice a lap dance. We need some music. Why a reality show? We've been open and out to our community, to our families, for five years.
So our community and where we live already knew. Challenging the institution of marriage, held sacred by millions, has brought them many critics. One of them just next door. Are you surprised at those different events late at night next door to you, going on in your neighborhood? Initially -- shocked, you know. I'm like, I thought that that was really just a thing that people did in the '70s with the bowl and the keys and everything.
Tony and Diana caution their lifestyle may not be for everyone. If monogamy works for you and you're happy, that's great. For us, this is what works and makes us happy. In a reality show, Tony and dianas' children's faces were blurred. I go to work, pick up the kids from school, do homework, cook dinner, no different than anybody else. Except that I happen to be a swinger on the side. When we showed up, the children were out of the home and at a friend's.
Do your children know about your lifestyle? I don't know many year-olds that know anything about their parents' sex life. So I don't see how it would be appropriate for them to know at this point.
It's something we're definitely going to have to address. We were already planning on being honest with them as they got older. And understanding our lifestyle. Obviously we're out in the community, they're going to find out.
And we might have a different marriage than your typical marriage. But it's okay to be different as long as you're happy, you're a good person, you don't hurt anybody. Tonight, Tony and Diana are spending a romantic night on the town with couples who are also in the swinging lifestyle.
What's going on tonight? This is a typical night out for Tony and I. As a woman how do you say, I'm okay with my man talking to somebody else? I'm okay with my man having sex with another woman?
Honestly, it's like I'm bragging. Bragging, like yeah, this is mine and I'm sharing him with you. But in the end, he's mine. I'm the one that gets to bring him home, I'm the one that gets to have the life with him. Like, you're going to get a little taste. You don't get jealous anymore after 11 years? She's my wife, I love her very much, I'm protective of her.
We did it together and that makes ups and downs easier for us. Doing it as unit, not as a my fantasy, your fantasy. Even if it was your fantasy, you know, I want to fulfill that for her. If that's a young year-old guy, I think I have more moves than him still, I think I'm okay. These are swingers that mingle in the general public. Tonight, Tony and Diana are heading to the town's local bar with a couple of swinging friends.
What does the evening look like for the two of you? I think it will just be having a few drinks. We're boring parents most nights. I find that hard to believe. The two of you, boring parents, come on. We are responsible most of the time. But that doesn't mean that, you know, our eyes are closed to opportunities if they arise.