I enjoyed this book because it definitely understands many of the challenges that people with disabilities face, especially when it comes to being taken seriously sexually. It was pleasantly surprising to see chapters on alternative sex, being queer, and spirituality. Many of the concepts in this book apply to non-disabled people as well. The section that lists resources, while out of date, is huge and many o The number of books written about sex, sexuality and disability is disappointingly low.
The section that lists resources, while out of date, is huge and many of the entries are still very useful. The only criticisms I have are that; I did find the book to be very basic. I also felt there were some strange omissions on certain subjects.
At some points, it felt like an academic was trying to hard to use "slang" type language and it didn't flow. Side note, I did appreciate that the book was written by three Canadian women, two of which have direct experience with disabilities. Not because it isn't a fabulous book, but because the topic under consideration is just way too large to handle inside its pages.
The chapter titles sorta give away the story: MS, fibromyalgia, epilepsy, Parkinsons, blindness, etc. Or, perhaps even more trenchant, How To Fuck Someone With Disability X, because this book really doesn't do much to help the partners of the disabled other than to join in the "Yes, you're a sexual being and yes, you deserve sexual pleasure and yes, there are men and women who like you just as you are and would fuck you just as you are" cheerleading.
Note that I'm using "fuck" here generically; feel free to mentally substitute "make love to," "have sex with," "kiss," "suck," "lick," "sodomize," or whatever you want instead. This book is pretty much a first of its kind.
I hope for more someday. It's a good start, but the world still needs a great finish. The focus is to better know yourself, and to have the courage to ask for what you need, and put shame aside. Sexuality is one way to explore this world and and to pleasure in it. Determining what is right for you, safely and consensually is key. I particularly liked that there was a whole chapter dedicated to assault and wo Well written, thoughtful, inclusive and non-judgmental, this is a must read for anyone working with folks with disabilities, or any one with a disability or chronic condition.
I particularly liked that there was a whole chapter dedicated to assault and working through it. People with disabilities and chronic conditions are poked and prodded, so saying no becomes more difficult, even taboo. It's written for people with disabilities who might not otherwise have access to information about their bodies or sex so it was amazingly comprehensive. I even discovered some assumptions that I didn't know I had that were challenged by this book.
I'd recommend it to anyone who wants to learn more about sexuality, disabled or not. Sep 28, Astrosleuththepoet rated it liked it Not a bad read, as I can relate to having some form of disability or setback.
But, nothing is written exclusively about males with mental disabilities such as Asperger's or Autism. Deals more with physical disabilities