It wasn't until the '90s — around the time Sex and the City introduced us to the Rabbit — that people in the mainstream spoke about sex toys out loud.
But these days, it's rare to walk into any pharmacy without seeing a selection of vibrators right next to the lube and condoms. And that's the way it should be. Fifty percent of women start using sex toys in their 20s. Thirty-five percent of Kiwis have at least one in their possession.
But that era is long over. So instead of giggling at the mention of cock rings and Rabbits, use the following tidbits to launch open and honest and not bashful conversations. There's nothing to be embarrassed about. Sex toys are for everyone, not just lonely single people.
People of all relationship statuses use sex toys. They're also not just for straight women. There are plenty of toys out there for same-sex couples , as well as toys for men.
Sex toys make good sex lives better, not worse. Another nasty rap and outdated notion is that sex toys are only for those whose sex lives are lacking. Sex toys enhance, not ruin, sex with a partner. Women not only benefit from sex toys — some women need them. Toys like vibrators can change that. Orgasms are great for stress and depression , they can help lower the risk of breast cancer in both men and women, and even aid in curing the common cold.
Orgasms allow women to have control not just over their pleasure, but over their health, too. And while all sex toys are made to enhance the already pleasuring experience, certain products and companies really go above in the beyond the call of duty for women's orgasms.
Thanks to one small device, the wearer can focus on sex with her partner without giving up the opportunity for enhanced pleasure. Eva, the first hands-free couples vibrator. Eva by Dame 4. Sex toys can be be game-changers for couples. Anal plugs and vibrators, restraints, whips, paddles, ropes, clamps, blindfolds and electrostimulation toys are all technically 'gender neutral,'" Marin said.
It can add an element of novelty that most sexual relationships are sorely lacking," Marin told Mic. Getting comfortable discussing sex toys helps us talk about sex. For some, the very mention of sex toys can make them erupt in an uncomfortable giggle, as if they're 13 all over again. Anyone who's ever been to a sex toy party has probably seen this phenomenon in action.
Sex toys can aid in sexual dysfunction. Sex toys can also help a man climax even if he can't get an erection. As men age and their parts just aren't working the way they used to, toys can become an essential part of sex.
Sex toys can shift the focus in the bedroom for the better. I've had so many clients that told me that once they blindfold their lover, they can do things and say things. They're 10 times bolder than they've ever been. It liberates them," says Cadell.
No need to be freaked out — there's a sex toy for everybody. If you enjoy anal play, then butt plugs and anal beads are great choices. If you're more into BDSM role-play, then floggers and handcuffs are definitely for you. There's even a vibrator, the We-Vibe 4 , that you can control with an app on your phone so your partner can get you off even if they're across the globe.
And if you want to start easy, the tiny Silver Bullet is a favorite. And best part about buying a sex toy? You're walking into a store or website among others just as curious as you are. For the newbies, it may seem like a harrowing experience, because, as Cadell explains, each person has their own set of fears and insecurities when it comes to sex. But whatever those fears are, they can be shelved long enough to allow yourself the opportunity to see what sex toys are out there and how your own sex life might be improved.
Plus, after a few orgasms, any hang-ups about sex toys you may have had will be long gone.