Some Ancient texts claim that anal penetration can disturb the balance of vital forces in the body, weaken the sphincter muscles producing loss of energy. From my own experiences I believe when a person is in an aroused or blissful state of mind, what may ordinarily appear repulsive can become pleasurable during such a state. There are many reasons why a lot of women are not open to trying anal sex. The most common objections I hear from men and women are: The deeper he went, the more pleasure I felt.
What most people are not aware of, are some of the more delightful options available from proper anal stimulation. With proper care and awareness, pain is avoidable during anal sex. Being patient, gentle and using lots of lubrication is key for anal pleasure. The anal canal has some similarities to the vaginal canal. Anal Canal also contains incredibly sensitive internal walls because of all the concentrated nerve endings.
The reason anal sex can be painful is because the walls inside the anal canal are much thinner and more vulnerable to pain than the walls inside the vaginal canal. The entrance of the anus anal ring , just like the entrance of the vagina, is surrounded by lots of nerve endings, which can give her variety of pleasures. Kristine Whitmore from the Pelvic Floor Institute has been quoted as saying: The anus is a receptive organ, but it needs to be courted with care.
The best way to ensure her that it will be painless and pleasurable is by starting slowly and patiently while creating a safe space for her. There are three main areas that need to be relaxed and opened graciously. The anal canal is the gateway to the rectum. The rectum is for more deep and energetic penetration. First You want to start with massaging her butt cheeks. Some women hold unexpressed sexual energy in their legs, thighs, and butt.
Massaging her butt and thighs can awaken the sexual energy held in those areas. The butt has two acupressure points right in the center of each butt cheek. Second Work your way inwards toward her anal ring sphincter muscles. The key is to relax the sphincter muscle, as this is the gateway to the anal canal. When you have good collaboration, you will notice her body opening up naturally where the tension turns into exquisite pleasure.
Final Thoughts… We are all learning how to do it safely, ecstatically and painlessly every time. Does anal sex require some getting use to? Is there an art to it? Absolutely, but it takes time to learn how to paint, be patient.
Can it sometimes be messy? The anal sex you see in porn movies is NOT how anal sex should be practiced — not even close. For some people men and women , they are simply not into it. Slow is better because there is a special energy and connection that you reach once you open her pleasure pathways.
If you want to dive deeper no pun intended and learn: The best toys and lubrications to use. How to properly arouse the anal ring. Her psychological and physical concerns. Best positions for penetration and stimulation. The importance of relaxing her PC and sphincter muscles. How to stimulate the G-Spot and the A-Spot through the anal canal.