Share3 I remember standing at the bookstore; 38 weeks pregnant with my big round belly staring at a gazillion books with big bold headings trying to grab my attention about parenting.
I wanted to know everything about parenting but the truth is that the only way that you will ever know about parenting is when you actually become a parent yourself. A book cannot prepare you, it can only guide you. One of the most common questions in mom groups is: Start taking folic acid the day you decide that you want to have a baby.
Eat what you feel like eating during your pregnancy and stop worrying about getting fat. Cravings and baby kicks are the best part of being pregnant! Love your body and the beautiful miracle that it is busy creating inside for you. Magnesium deficiency is a common cause of morning sickness so make sure that you take your vitamins every day.
Try drinking it with fresh juice. Morning sickness is the worst part of pregnancy — It can occur any time of day and anytime during your pregnancy. It can even stop and come back at a later stage. Pregnancy can make you tired and emotional. Relax when you can and take a nap. Pregnant bellies are the cutest — so flaunt it.
Yes, it is possible to fart and burp at the same time. Your feet will swell a little or a lot! Enjoy the shiny healthy hair because soon it will be falling — a lot. Some clothing may contain chemicals like formaldehyde. Onesies are more comfortable than 2 pieces. Birth plans are not necessary. Educate yourself about C-sections and Vaginal births. Giving birth is the happiest and scariest day of your life. Let your body heal.
Spend a lot of skin-to-skin time with your baby so you can bond. Crying is how newborns communicate. Listen to your instincts, not Dr. Babies have their own schedule; they will guide you. You can buy a breast pump and baby monitor on most medical Aids from your savings.
Watch breastfeeding videos and hire a lactation consultant if you need assistance. Never leave home without extra breast pads and another set of clothes for you and baby. You will lose the baby weight but you may never wear those jeans again — your body shape may change.
You will have bad days, but loads of good ones too. Remember marriage will never be the same after a baby, a lot changes. Date nights are important. Make time for sex. Schedule it if you have too. Sex can be painful the first few times after birth. Post Natal Depression is a reality. Accept any help you can get for cooking, cleaning and babysitting. It is okay to have a meltdown.
Your baby will puke or poop all over you at least once. Not all diapers are created the same. Cheaper is not always better. Stock up on wet wipes. Sometimes the material of the wet wipe can be too harsh for a newborn. Epi-max works wonders for baby acne and eczema. Buy lots of bibs and teething gel. Buy a bottle of gripe water and nasal spray. Invest in a non-slip bath mat. The yellow line on the middle of the nappy is an indicator. If you have a son — make sure his private part faces down when you put the diaper on.
Trust me, this definitely does matter! If you want to have a shower while baby is awake, put baby in a bouncer inside the bathroom with you. That way you can sing, watch baby and enjoy your shower. Get out of the house with your newborn. Take a stroll down your street with baby in the pram.
Sleep deprivation is the worst. Download a baby schedule app to see how much sleep your baby is getting. No matter how much you love your baby, nap time is never long enough. Co-sleeping is acceptable and might be the only way you get some sleep. Expect that each baby will be unique. Let the laundry pile up. Your mom and mother-in-law might get pushy and expect you to do things a certain way. Let your husband or partner do things his own way.
Make a to-do list of tasks big and small before you go to bed. You will appreciate your own mother so much more now that you a mom too. Stay at home moms feel guilty just as working moms do but it just may be for different reasons. Spending the entire day in pyjamas is acceptable. Every baby reaches milestones at different ages. Babies are very forgiving. Time really goes fast with a baby around and soon she will be a year old… than 2-years old.
Politics become more important now that you have a family. Take pictures with YOU in them. Forgetting things is normal. Laughter is the best medicine.