Tell them that it has nothing to do with a lack of feelings, or your level of commitment. This conversation takes a lot of courage because your pressuring partner may refuse to understand what you are saying. They may take it personally, or get mad and walk away. Nonetheless, the person who can talk things out is far happier than those who keep things deeply hidden. My boyfriend keeps trying to get me to do stuff with him, such as kiss him, or have sex.
Love is patient, and is willing to wait for the right time and the right person. Loves always looks after the other person first. Love is never selfish. When a guy really loves a girl, he will do everything he can to protect her. Hoping that something will come out of it and it never does.
For the relatively few brief moments she is having sex, Mandy somehow feels loved. Mandy is confused about what love really is. It is not easy to face the consequences of believing that lie. Know When to Move On If the pressure for sex does not let up, get rid of him or her.
It is far better for you to lose your relationship, than to do something you will later regret. He tried to pressure me into it.
He kept trying to do stuff, and I told him to stop. Remember, most pressured relationships are not love, but rather, they are just uncovered needs, fantasy, confusion, and selfishness. He made it sound as if it was my obligation.
Be prepared to be rejected. Sex is not an indicator of love, or even of your level of commitment in a relationship. Sex is not an obligation. May God give you a boyfriend or girlfriend who deeply respects you.
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I just broke up with my boyfriend because he kept pressuring me to have sex. Now while him and I was in a relationship we were intimate but I started feeling convicted. We started to go to church together regularly and I was praying and reading my Word more and I could not keep getting close to Jesus and sinning. I just choose to serve one master and that is God.
So thank you for posting this. And im a 16 year old girl in high school wanting to go to college. But i almost threw all of that away dealing with my 19 year old ex boyfriend who was a crook. All he talked about was having sex and having kids. And i mean sure it all felt good to hear those things but i dont want kids. And I never told him that cause i was afraid.
Aari Brea And plus having sex with him meant disobeying my parents. But he just always wanted it to be about him. He even said that I should come live with him. My parents would hate me for that. And I didnt want to lose him but I also love my family first. So anyways I just broke up with him a couple days ago and its killing me inside. He promised he would never leave me no matter what Aari Brea But he threatend to leave me if i didnt have sex with him.
So i chose to leave because I tried to convince myself that i would not disrespect my body, my family, or my beliefs…but im really hurt. I do miss him and I do love him…and sometimes I still have regrets about leaving him while the other part of me says that I did the right thing. Resoluteman never regret, you have done what you had to do.
Then one day we were all alone so he took me somewhere where no one would find us and started making out with me. Then he touched me all over the place. Then he took me to his house and started pulling off my clothes and started taking off his clothes and then he started having sex with me.
Can you please tell me what to do to make him stop having sex with me. All she talked about was how having sex was healthy and that because we were girlfriend and boyfriend it was something we were supposed to do.
I finally found the courage to end the relationship. I blame myself for not stopping the whole situation from happening and standing my ground.
It sounds as though you clearly told this woman that you did not want to have sex. No-one, guy or girl should be pressured to have sex. Consent is only consent when it is freely given. You have done nothing wrong and the blame is not yours to carry. I hope you are able to get support with this, maybe by confiding in someone you trust or with a counsellor. It sounds important that you find someone to help you process all of this.
I wish you well. TheHopeLine I am really proud of you for staying strong. It sounds like your girlfriend has mixed up ideas about what love really is. You are showing her respect by not giving in.
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