Sex When I was a teenager there was a routine to getting laid. It was never long before someone went off with a boy. Half an hour later or less. I might have been too sensible, too argumentative and too right-on to join in, but I had a front row seat to the drunken sexual shenanigans of my friends.
So when I saw new research from WHO which suggests that English and Welsh girls are the only ones in Europe who are more likely their male counterparts to get drunk and have sex , and far more likely than other European teens, I was unsurprised.
Alamy Why is making a teenage mistake or behaving badly considered to belong to one gender? And why is male behaviour the yard-stick for girls to be compared against anyway? It belongs to an out-dated idea that boys want adventure, sex, drugs and booze, and girls just want to be amenable. To start with it depends whether you think every teenager asked by WHO was telling the truth, or whether British girls are just a whole lot more honest than their European counterparts.
I feel pretty convinced that teenage sexual exploits are just as likely to be fuelled by Grappa, Limoncello or Cinzano as by Strongbow. The alcohol acted as some kind of protection. Slut-shaming was and is still a very real thing. The excuse that a girl was drunk, especially if enough people had seen you throwing up the litre of White Strike you'd downed, was a protection from being called a whore. It was an accident. Teenage years are marked by a kind of fear and loathing, hating your body, hating your skin, wanting to look different and feel different.
No-wonder the idea of taking your clothes off and letting someone touch the most intimate parts of the body makes young women reach for the WKD. Coming of age films and TV programs like American Pie or The Inbetweeners have narratives dedicated to the sexual frustration of being a teenage boy. You can apparently carry a whole story off the back of a horny seventeen year old trying to lose his virginity.
Lack of confidence, poor body image, slut shaming all play a part. Women who have negative formative sexual experiences struggle to offset that in to their twenties and beyond. A good start can last a lifetime.
Your first sexual experiences shape you. So with this many of us having drunken fumbles as our early sexual enlightenment, is it really any wonder that difficulty to orgasm or achieve a satisfactory sex life is such a common issue for women in the UK?