The intimate experience ended up being incredibly powerful. Hold on, keep calm, let me explain. So here it goes, I suggest grabbing yourself a cosy seat, a cup of tea or some red wine… , this is some serious and sensual business. Yoni Massage, similar to a massage anywhere else in the body, releases tension. Yoni massage is profound work. A Tantric tradition studied deeply and thoroughly. Professional practitioners should have years of experience and have studied with reputable organisations.
A person interested in yoni massage should get a recommendation from someone who has received one, first hand. Do not go blindly into a consultation. A few other important factors that make a yoni massage different from sex: The massage therapist is only there to give to the recipient. It is all about the person receiving the massage it is rare for women to purely receive. No more, I say. The night before the massage I dreamt that we had started the yoni experience and got interrupted by an intense ocean storm.
So I woke up feeling like I needed to have it. Supplied So, finally there I was, opening my door literally and metaphorically to Tantric practitioner Mangala Holland from Mystic Sex. Mangala set up the room, with a few candles and some sheets on the bed. We talked about my intentions, anything I thought was blocking my sexuality, where I thought I needed healing in what areas of my life , how my orgasms were or were not. Then we did an undressing ritual.
I took an item of clothing off and with each piece I dropped to the floor I said out loud something I wanted to let go of. We then meditated together. The massage always starts with a full-body oil massage.
There is no touching of the genitalia until you are fully relaxed. Then we had an intermission if you will. A toilet break, a little visit to the snack bar kidding. When I came back from the bathroom, we changed positions and she sat between my legs, while I wrapped them around her. Mangala then asked if she could touch my yoni externally. Then after some external massage she asked permission to enter my yoni or something similar.
From here Mangala used certain techniques to stimulate and massage my yoni, she felt for tension like any other trained massage therapist and from there with my full permission she worked into these areas, asking me to breath and make sound accordingly.
For a lot women big change and liberation lies in connecting to breath and sound. We hold back so much in our day to day lives that just this as part of the ritual is transforming. For me, I practice making sound as much as I can throughout the day. And even still I found myself not fully able to let go. At times, I felt sad, at times I felt orgasmic energy through my whole body, at times my whole arms went numb, at times I felt like I was meditating.
This practice for me ended up being one that was quite Tantric; essentially I worked on bringing the orgasmic energy up through my body, to revitalise my energetic body my chakras and to connect to my heart.
Afterwards I felt reassured. The following day after the massage, I felt emotional. I even felt weird about the experience. The whole experience seemed quite unbelievable and surreal. I think this work is really important. I think there is a special type of person that can offer this work and hold this space. I think we all deserve to feel pleasure and that we need to also teach our youth about the value of pleasure and self-respect.
Vanessa Muradian is a sexologist and a yoga teacher. She runs pleasure workshops for women and runs a women-centric sex and wellness business Mia Muse. Stress in the Office? Try Yoga and Massages 2: Refresh Body October 16th