Benji - I think the council would tell you to move your two sons into the same bedroom and give your daughter the box room: Gab87 - Jun 2: My 15 year old daughter shares the big room with my 6year old son who has epilepsy. It is now causing problems. I'm not shore wot to do. All advice welcome thanks Benji - Jun My ex partner and I have been split up for 5 years now, he has a new girlfriend who has two children herself both girls at the age of 7 and 18 month.
I have a daughter at 9 and a son at 6. I have concerns as the oldest 3 share a bedroom, the two girls share a bed and my son has to sleep in the floor! I'm not happy with this and I've tried to have conversations with my ex about the arrangement, I have bought my son a blow up bed for him to sleep in there but his dad refuses to put it up and now my daughter who is nearly 10 is saying she is starting to feel uncomfortable in sharing a bed with my ex partners daughter.
I need help where do I stand. If you cannot agree between yourselves, then mediation should be suggested as a way to try to solve this issue. Mediation is when two or more parties meet to resolve problems before the matter reaches court.
It is most often used in family proceedings. It is a formal negotiation and courts can accept the agreement of the mediation instead of having to go through the court process, although it is subject to final court approval. Mediation takes place in front of a neutral third party.
The mediator has no pre-conceptions and will not force you to make an agreement. They will assist the two parties in taking turns in the conversation, and help you reach a decision that you are ready to agree with. Mediators do not pass judgment or offer guidance; they are there, in effect, to facilitate conversation between the two sides.
SafeKids - May I living a council flat which a two bedroom. My son is 11 yrs old and my daughter is 9 yrs old coming to 10 in August and are sharing a room together. My other daughter which is 11 month is sleeping in are room in her cot and she will be 1 next month.
I'm trying to get the council to move me to a bigger place and they don't care. Advise please Our Response: Have you through about trying to organise a council house swap? Please see link here , which may help you further. I have a daughter aged 15 and will be 16 at the end of the year and a son who will be turning 7 in a couple of months. My daughter has her own room which is a box room and two small to share or even fit a bunk bed in. My son currently is sleeping at the bottom of my bed in a cot bed he has had sine birth.
I am entitled to a three bedroom and have been bidding and remained on the internal housing association transfer list. My son cries that he doesn't have any space in the house to call his own and unable to have a friend stay over. I feel this is stunting his personal and emotional development. What can I do? The room standard says your home is legally overcrowded if two people of the opposite sex have to share a room to sleep in. Please see the link here to see if this may apply to you.
I'm not happy with this and I've tried to have conversations with my ex about the arrangement, I have bought my son a blow up bed for him to sleep in there but his dad refuses to put it up and now my daughter who is nearly 10 is saying she is starting to feel uncomfortable in sharing a bed with my ex partners daughter I need help where do I stand..
Blessed with both - May 4: Advise please jenny - May 4: Both my kids are coming up to age 10 twins and I am going to have to think around where to put them in our three-bedroomed house. We have a toddler too and can't move as my husband recently lost his job.
The toddler is going to keep my daughter awake in the middle of the night if they have to share. Chris - May But is this when the eldest is 10 or the youngest?
Kking - 9-May There are no specific rules. At aged eight and nine sharing may be still acceptable. However, the children are not going to stay that age forever.
So, from aged 10 onwards it is thought to be the correct policy, for obvious reasons. It would be inappropriate to allow teenagers of the opposite sex to share. So, at some point soon you would have to address this issue anyway. SafeKids - Apr Janet - Apr 9: I have to share a room with my step brothers and brother , I am 10,the oldest is 11, and the two youngest are 9 and 8 my brother is the youngest should I still share at this age? Theoretically, you shouldn't be sharing a room with boys at your age, especially an older step-brother of the opposite sex.
You may wish to speak to your parents and show them the guidelines laid out in this page. SafeKids - 9-Apr Millz - 8-Apr 5: Is this a problem because of course they all are growing up at different stages and this is unsettling for my boyfriend. It could be considered as 'overcrowding'. Pease see link here , which may help further.
SafeKids - 3-Apr 3: Problems only occur when different sexes share, for obvious reasons. Jules - Mar Sam - Mar 4: Grim - 2-Mar 1: Me and hubby sleep on the sofa in the living room but wanted to know if this is illegal because the girls are not biologically our children and we have no privacy.
What are our rights on this please.?? If your husband's sisters are officially living with you, then you can see whether your home is considered to be overcrowded via the link here. SafeKids - 9-Feb 2: What are our rights on this please??
JR - 6-Feb 9: Hi, I have a 17yr old soon to be 18 , a 16yr old and a 10 yr old eldest two are not my bio children, but reside with my husband and I full time. At present they each have their own bedrooms after converting the living room for the youngest. The eldest and youngest are on the autistic spectrum. I have just recently found out I am expecting again completely unplanned and wandered what the rules were surrounding half siblings sharing bedrooms?
Also it is our councils policy that children over the age of 10 should not share and a child over the age of 16 should have their own Bedroom, but they are unwilling to help us in moving etc. Is there anything I can do? Or any advice anyone can offer. You don't say whether the children are same of different sex, so Shelter should be able to help you further with this matter, please see link here.
SafeKids - Jan 9: Thanks Gg - Jan 4: Can to teenage siblings male and female share a bedroom in private rented accommodation buy to let landlord? There is currently no law in the United Kingdom about children of different genders sharing a bedroom. However, it is not deemed advisable that children of the opposite sex over the age of 10 share a bedroom.
SafeKids - Jan 3: Andy - Jan The basic rules are that one bedroom is allowed for each of the following: General recommendations would mean once your daughter reaches the age of 11, then your son and daughter should be allocated separate bedrooms. If the council is informing you that you currently have adequate housing, then you may wish to enquire what the situation will be when your daughter reaches the age of SafeKids - 8-Jan 1: Hi, I am just wondering if it is illegal for a family if 5 to share a one bedroom flat.
There is me, my partner and 3 children, boy aged 9 and 2 girls aged 7 and 1. I just get fobbed off all the time from Enfield council saying there is a housing shortage.
As you can imaging we are extremely cramped. My bedroom is 13x13ft which We all sleep in. We don't get any benefits and we pay our way.
Please could you give me any advice on how to be moved.