Share on whatsapp Shutterstock We are told that the couples who love each other are those who are inseparable and do everything together, but that's not true. Yes, at the beginning you can't wait to be with your partner, but after a while and when you get to know each other better, it's not such a good idea to act like twins.
According to psychologist Terri Orbuch, privacy and space in a relationship are much more important than having a good sex life. How is this possible? Orbuch is involved in a marriage study in the U. Of those, 46 percent are divorced and 29 percent of those said the reason was that there was no privacy or space in the relationship.
Of those marriages who said they were unhappy, Why do we need space? Jenn Evelyn-Ann Via Unsplash Space is very important in a relationship because of the following reason as told by the psychologist: Time alone also gives partners time to process their thoughts, pursue hobbies and relax without responsibilities to others.
Couples who don't give each other space to work on their independent and personal projects can begin to feel suffocated. Psychologist John Aiken agreed: Having time apart is extremely healthy and keeps a freshness in their relationship.
It encourages each person to maintain their own sense of identity while still being a couple, and it fosters independence and strength rather than neediness and clinginess. They are some people who need more space than usual to be alone. But we all need privacy to not get tired of spending time with the same person.
If you want space in your relationship, these are the tips Orbuch recommends: Use your space to learn something new: Every new experience will add something new to your self-growth and relationship. Don't feel bad for wanting space, you need it. Don't say "I need space": Your couple could interpret it as if you don't want to spend time with him or her.
Instead, let them know that having space will make you happier. Change the "I need privacy" for an "I want to take a cooking class," for example.
This way, they know that your reasons have to do with you and not him or her. Let your couple know what you did while you had your space.
This is another way to build trust, something that's key in every relationship. The time that you dedicate to yourself is essential to refresh your mind, follow your dreams, or simply relax. We all need personal space and time to dedicate to our loved ones, now we know how to do it!