First and foremost, make sure you allow plenty of time. Two is even better. No girlfriend walking into my bedroom. No kids screaming outside the door. My phone and TV get turned off. The lights are turned low. I want this time all to myself. I want to focus solely on ME and only me. This is critical for a successful session. This is totally different than regular masturbation. Heck, I only need 5 or 10 minutes for that. The lights and TV can be on. I can pretty much do that whenever. A good p-spot massage session is an entirely different matter.
Personally, I like to start with a bowel movement an hour or longer before I get started. Then I like to take a long hot shower. As hot as I can stand it. I spend plenty of time washing my entire body from head to toe, especially the area around my bum. I also advise doing some deep cleaning in the rectum. This involves using a washcloth and a finger.
Push the cloth in your butt hole just a little bit to clear out any poo that might hiding near the surface. Next, I crawl into bed. I like to have some soft soothing music playing. This is a great time for meditation. I like to practice breathing exercises, inhaling deeply, exhaling slowly.
Not being in a calm state will kill the mood. This is why meditation, soothing music, a bowel movement and a hot shower are so important to me before I even get started. This includes towels, lube, glass of water, remote controls, etc. Have your pillows all arranged in the right places. The temperature in the room should be just right. Not too hot and not too cold. A like to have a fan blowing over me as well. Get into a comfortable position There are two positions I like to use.
I simply lay in bed, on my side. This makes it easy to insert the toy, finger or whatever into my rectum. My second favorite is also quite simple. I simply lie flat on my back and pull my feet toward my butt. With my knees raised and spread apart, it provides access the rectum.
There are other positions you can utilize, but I recommend one of these to get started. The following technique is what works best for me. There are other ways to do it, but this is my personal favorite. Start by applying a generous amount of lube to both the toy and your butt hole. Then gently nudge the stimulator into your rectum. It should be anatomically designed to hit all the right spots. The toy will probably feel uncomfortable at first, and it may be hard to get in.
It might even hurt a little prior to getting it all the way inserted. But if the pain is too much, you should stop and try again another time.
Follow the directions there for the massage I like to use the contract and release method. This involves flexing and releasing your pelvic floor muscles, also known as the PC pubococcygeal muscles. Think of it as lifting your groin muscles. These are the same muscles you use to start and stop the flow of urine.
In fact, you can practice this lift and release the next time you go to the bathroom. Make note of this sensation and use it during your next massage session. Keep doing the lift and release for as long as you can.
I suggest holding the lift for a few seconds, and then slowly release. Simply keep repeating this process over and over. Try to time your muscle contraction and simultaneously take a deep breath. Then release the contraction and exhale.
The harder you contract, the harder it bumps. This is what creates the good feelings, leading to climax. The longer you do this, the closer it will bring you to the ultimate goal, prostate orgasm. You can improve this over time by practicing. The following infographic walks you through the five basic stages from initial stimulation to the orgasmic finale.
To see the hi-res version click here. You can use your fingers, or any other SAFE item to do this. Well, now is the time to do just that. Personally, these are the fastest orgasms I can ever hope to achieve. After an hour or more or prostate orgasms, the traditional ejaculation is literally only a few minutes away.
Be sure to have a towel ready for cleanup. These ejaculations are at least twice as big as a normal one. How to do it: However, I did this in my early days before I was comfortable using internal devices.
No anal penetration is required. In a nutshell, the prostate is activated from the outside by applying pressure to the perineum. The prostate is located directly above this area.
Your index, middle and ring fingers will be used for this exercise. The first two steps are identical to the internal method. Lay down on a flat, comfortable surface. A bed is the best location. Relax and put yourself in zen mode. Whatever it takes to be calm and able to focus exclusively on the task at hand.
While laying on your back, with your knees up and feet on the bed,using the 3 finger method, place all three fingers on your perineum. Apply firm, but gentle pressure. Start to massage the area in a clockwise motion. Do this 5 or 6 times and then switch to a counterclockwise motion. You may have to move around a bit until you find the spot that feels most pleasurable.
Also experiment with different levels of pressure until you find what feels best. Continue to perform these repetitions for as long as you feel comfortable. As I mentioned earlier, achieving orgasm is extremely difficult this way. However, it does feel very good, which makes it a great way to warm up for an internal massage.
How prostate massage feels You might be asking yourself: How does it feel? This is what Klaus from Denmark had to say. I have never been into anal sex, but about two months ago I stumbled into it googling for remedies for an enlarged prostate.
What I found was that prostate massage might be the answer to my benignly enlarged prostate. Today I stumbled into your site and read that with prostate sexuality you have to have patience, awareness, really good time etc.
So I followed your instructions and it became quite nice, — I could hit all the right spots etc. Nice, but no orgasm. Afterwards I sat down in a chair to read.