The home movie that she shot in with her then boyfriend, Rick Salomon — with no intent of ever releasing it — rates as one of the most explicit celebrity sex tapes ever made public. Modern technology, such as digital camcorders and web cams, has made the filming of raunchy bedroom activities incredibly easy and increasingly commonplace.
But at the same time, social-networking technology renders these private movies unbelievably vulnerable to sudden mass exposure at the click of a button — via MMS clips on cellphones, Facebook, YouTube and a multitude of other applications. So it begs the question — why would anyone agree to film their sex antics? Why make a home sex movie?
There are two elements involved. Firstly, performing sexually for a camera that operates like a third eye is exhibitionistic and it completely changes the atmosphere of a sexual interlude. You both become performers rather than partakers in sex.
Secondly, watching the video together afterwards can be thrilling and erotically charged. It gives you an idea of what you would look like as a movie star or porn star — something that most people fantasise about but never get to enact in normal life.
Yet considering that roughly half of all marriages end in divorce — most of which are acrimonious — and that the majority of relationships are likely to break up sooner or later, it would be prudent to film your personal sex scenes only under certain conditions.
No one likes the thought of their wide circle of mutual friends or the general public chortling over their intimate sex scenes or naked photos after a relationship has soured. How to make your own sex tape. The key priority is absolute trust in your partner. Not that this is sacrosanct because trust can break in a split second — like after one of you has discovered the other has had an affair. If the idea of filming yourselves appeals, start by examining what type of sexual activities you would each like to record and which activities you would definitely want excluded — and come to an agreement.
Then set up a tripod or use a hand-held camera, or alternate between them for variety. Try altering the lighting and mood of your venue, consider whether you want music playing or prefer the sounds of your voices, and vary between overall views and close-ups. Look around for props such as food, champagne, lubricants, handcuffs, massage oils, full-length mirrors and sex toys, to eroticise the action. Vary your activities as it can be dull watching a long stretch of the same thing from the same angle and distance.
Change positions frequently, and move from foreplay to intercourse and back again. Close-ups are likely to be far more erotic to watch later than wide-angle shots. Or as an interesting alternative, hook up the camcorder to the TV and watch yourselves live. Role-play adds a different dimension Consider spicing things up by dressing up in fantasy outfits and role-playing. Doctor-nurse and vampire-victim are popular options, as is the dominatrix-sex slave scenario, which people often find quite liberating as they get to act out of character.
Two final points come to mind. Or you could agree to film yourselves on the proviso that you watch your home movie together immediately afterwards and then delete it. This way, you get to perform like porn stars and view yourselves in action, without that fear in the back of your minds of potential future embarrassment. Stevie Jean writes for the local online adult store, OhZone.
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