Using protection during anal sex is important to reduce your risk of catching an STI. For penetrative sex, make sure you use a condom and lots of lube — some people feel safer using extra-thick condoms for anal sex. Dental dams also offer good protection for rimming.
You can use either a external condom which goes on penises or sex toys or an internal condom which goes in vaginas or anuses, also called a female condom for anal sex, depending on your preference. The female condom is inserted into the anus before sex, just as it would be used in the vagina.
Also use a fresh one if you are swapping between anal and vaginal stimulation. This is because the material of some sex toys may harbour bacteria and infections even after cleaning though not HIV.
You may be able to take post-exposure prophylaxis PEP to prevent HIV infection, but it has to be taken within 72 hours to be effective. Don't use your partner's semen also known as cum as a lubricant. Oil-based lubricants such as lotion and moisturiser can weaken condoms and make them more likely to break. How do I stimulate a man's prostate gland? Many men also like having their prostate stimulated.
The prostate is a walnut-sized gland located just below the bladder and is highly sensitive to stimulation usually gentle finger stimulation through the anus. However, there are many blood vessels in and around the prostate and it can get bruised if handled roughly, so always treat it gently and use lots of lube.
Is anal sex painful? For lots of people anal sex is a pleasurable part of their sex life. Luckily, there are things you can do to lessen any pain.
These include going slowly, working your way up to penetration with the penis with smaller objects such as fingers or sex toys, and using a lot of water-based lubrication. Continual communication as you progress is the best way to make sure you both enjoy anal sex.
If at any time you are feeling strong pain then you should stop immediately. This is because you could transfer small amounts of faeces to the vagina which can cause urinary tract infections such as cystitis. The same goes for using a finger to stimulate the anus and then putting it in the mouth, as this can pass on STIs such as hepatitis and shigella. If you have anal sex and then move onto vaginal sex or oral sex you should use a fresh condom to prevent these infections.
The same applies if you are using sex toys. Be aware that there is a small chance of semen leaking out and dripping into the vagina after anal sex. Using condoms is the best way to make sure you are always protected properly against STIs and pregnancy.
Should I have anal sex? Talk to your partner about protection before you start having anal sex to help things go more smoothly. Remember that having unprotected anal sex puts you and your partner at higher risk of HIV and other STIs such as hepatitis A and shigella than other sexual activities.
Being safe will help you both feel more relaxed and make sex more enjoyable. Deciding whether to have anal sex is a very personal thing. The main things to consider are whether it feels right, and whether you and your partner are both sure.
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