Because you have already won. And making you come is a prize! Do not fake it. You get nothing from this and never will. Therefore, and never forget it, you have the power. A lady is an awesome thing.
This is the key to your sex parts. You own them; they want them. Be careful, but not too careful. And learn to switch power roles, back and forth, as quickly as you can turn over. Ejaculation is not your friend but your sworn enemy. Indeed, consider your situation to be one of a struggle to keep the damn thing down. If you last, your lady friend will return; if you do not last, she will not return. She will go elsewhere, looking for something that will last.
Who is your ally? Who is your enemy? If you move too fast, your enemy will win this war. You have to go so-so and find interesting ways kissing, fingering, whispering to take a break from the beat. You have to last. Do not get caught up in the fucking; focus on lasting. Send your mind to the bottom of an ocean, or to a single grain of sand in the Sahara, or to the light of a distant star—do whatever it takes to last.
Try different positions, different toys, different orifices and beyond. Try for different types of orgasms—don't just go for a direct hit unless you only have five minutes in a public bathroom. Indulge yourself; foreplay isn't just for when other people are around. Play with your fantasies, kinks, and desires.
Read up on female sexuality and erotica. Confidence is key when it comes to sex—and the more you try out, the more you will know what works for you and the less timid you'll be about your own and other people's bodies.
Plus, that post-orgasm glow looks really good on you. Everyone's bodies and brains are different, even when you are working with similar parts. Rid yourself of preconceived notions about what ladies do with lady parts. You don't have to be romantic and slow. Don't be afraid to fuck.
Ask for and take what you want remembering to make sure everyone involved is on board, of course. Embrace the fluidity that female sexuality has to offer, and play with all the tools you were given and the ones you've bought. Your hands are your primary tools, so get ready to get arm-deep.
With patience and lots of talking you can look forward to fisting, G-spot orgasms, and ejaculating. Strap-ons can also be powerful and exciting. Psychic dick is an amazing thing to experience—so if you are game, it's worth investing in. Any previously acquired cock-sucking skills can still come in handy when working with silicone.
And don't neglect your classic oral-sex techniques. Three 6 Mafia and the rest of us would rather get some head, and you have the advantage on giving a lady what she really wants. Get a water-based lube because it's condom-safe and it won't take a thousand years to wash off.
You can graduate to oil-based lubes when you and what's-his-name move in together, commit to a monogamous relationship, decide to give up condoms since you're only doing each other, and take up marathon fucking. To suck dick successfully, hold it at the base with one hand, put your mouth over what's remaining, and move your hand and mouth up and down together.
If you're going to rim someone: Ask first about his STD and hepatitis status, make sure he's showered and his butt is sparkly clean, then spread his butt cheeks and go for it. Always ask, "What's your HIV status? Don't put a perfect stranger's dick in your mouth, or any dick with sores on it, and don't eat a perfect stranger's butt.
Parks, bathhouses, and campus bathrooms are not the answer: Old men covered in diseases go there looking for young guys who don't know any better. If you're not old enough to get into Pony, try online— Adam4Adam. Always meet for coffee first many guys on the internet have attractive photos but turn out be obese aliens , and don't do anything that doesn't feel right. How to Use Your Sex Parts If You Don't Want to Gender Them Maybe you feel like you were born in the wrong body, maybe you love your body but everyone else seems confused about it, maybe you've had surgery or are on hormones, maybe you bind or tuck or accessorize to feel comfortable with or define your gender.
Or maybe you just want to fuck someone who does. But before you hit the sack or stacks, see below , have at least one actual conversation about sex with your date. Cover basics like what's encouraged and what's off-limits and how you define safe sex. And don't forget that good sex is had with whole bodies, not just the predictable parts. Ideally, we all have lips and fingers and necks and backs and butts and collarbones and nipples.
Regardless of gender, the protocol remains the same: Listen—to your own body as well as the one s you are entwined with. Communicate—with sounds or words if the meaning of your noises is unclear never hesitate to ask for what you want.
Above all, enjoy—learn how to become lost in your own pleasure as well as someone else's if you are already a pro at the former, practice the latter, and vice versa. And remember—practice makes perfect. Don't blow it by playing Christian rock or ska. Certain musical styles have been proven—through rigorous experiments in the field—to set optimal moods and attitudes geared for enhancing sexual performance in Homo sapiens. Hell, just perusing Ohio Players' LP covers should get you hornier than a submarine full of seamen.
If manic rhythms with extreme frequencies stimulate you to ecstatic heights, check out the roster of DFA Records; two lengthy comps of the NYC label's output exist for your delectation, ready to score your scores till the break of dawn—or dusk.
Last but not least, metronomic, lush techno and deep house music will also put some robust buck in your bang. How to Find the Sex Libraries Every college worth its salt has one—a library where men gather in the appropriately named men's room to revel in their manliness and perhaps leave spooge stains on the floor.
But how does one find such men's rooms? Follow the scent of CK One and self-loathing? Simply follow the clues below. Rumor has it that the facilities located on the library's third and fourth floors are sex central. God—the ultimate dean of the Jesuit SU—is watching! And He doesn't like what he sees! Seattle Central Community College: There are no rumors about this place.
But according to Seattle gay historian Adrian Ryan, "the culinary department's men's potty resembles the last days of the Roman Empire! This library is extremely small. Proceed with caution, unless you are an extremely small person, in which case revel in open dirtiness wherever! How to Kill a Baby Sometimes things happen, like babies. Sometimes, because of life, these babies need to be ended before they begin. Lucky for you, life-living lady, you live in a big, liberal city with big, liberal baby-ending options.
This is probably going to be hard, but that does not mean it is the wrong thing to do or the right thing to do. For the record, just because sometimes someone regrets something does not mean that the thing should be illegal—were that the case, we would like to press criminal charges against the Great Knit Poncho Explosion of Tell whoever impregnated you to pony up some cash. An abortion can be paid for in installments. An abortion can be a pill better or it can be an operation worse.
You do not have to tell your parents about your abortion thank you, Washington State! You will be okay. Here are your abortion service options in and around Seattle, listed by location. Aurora Medical Services, Broadway, Ste , , www.
Culture How to Speak About Arty Things In general, it is better to say nothing and be thought a fool than to open your mouth and prove yourself one.
But if you must speak on an arty subject, just be honest—don't name-drop, don't make up shit about light and perspective and Freudian symbolism and postmodern theory unless you've read—and written essays about—the books. Say what you think and don't try to impress anybody, especially yourself. The great news is this: While good art is a marvelous thing to behold and even bad art can be instructive, arty events tend to attract plenty of loud-mouthed morons who will do the embarrassing talking for you.
How to Be a Foodie Do not use the word "foodie," and give up on finding a good substitute: You are merely a person who has a modicum of knowledge about, and enjoys a variety of, different foods.