Relationships Archived Discussion This discussion is archived and locked for posting See active discussions on Relationships l sex while im sleeping.. So lately, almost every night my DF basically has sex with me while im sleeping, i wake up everytime but he doesnt know.
Im used to it now, sometimes it gets me going But i know it shouldnt cuz in a way its creepy Well about a week ago i woke up too him one morning trying to stick it in and he had his phone in his hand He then stopped, rolled over, and started texting away!
Everyonce in a while hed roll back over still hard and would rub up against me.. And go back too texting. Im concerned because in the past he has cheated on me multiple times and has also had a porn addiction, all that is in the past and has been worked out, but i did confront him and ask him about the phone and of course as usual he got defensive and said that "he knew i woke up, and didnt wanna do it anymore cuz he likes it better when im sleeping" like wtf?
Im having this mans child any day now and i just dunno if i can deal with this anymore, but what can i do?? Anybody else been in a similar problem??? Go easy on me! I drew a complete blank and had to come back I would be so pissed if I was in your situation. He sounds like a weirdo to me. First he has sex with you when you are sleeping way creepy, since you can't really consent, except that you are actually awake, but he doesn't know that then when he realizes you are awake he stops, cuz he would rather you be asleep AND he texts, and or watches videos I really don't mean to offend, but he doesn't sound like a real catch to me.
I hope you figure out what to do. As another poster put it Holy run-on sentence Batman! A AFMom lovealwaysmommy At first I was thinking that maybe he was initiating in his sleep since my husband does that occasionally--we'll both wake up partway through and just keep going because it's generally pretty hot sex.
Then later he'll ask if I started it because he was asleep for the beginning! This doesn't sound like that, though. I'd push him away if you're waking up to him having sex with you, especially after the cell phone thing.
And I'd find a way to check his phone, too! It's like he's just using you like a sex doll, which is horrible. Who's to say he won't do that to your child. He sounds creepy enough to do it. That was never a pleasant thing for me to wake up to, and yeah, as previous poster said, that's rape. I told my ex that he needed to stop doing that, but he wouldn't. It was one of the reasons that contributed to our break up. Don't you wonder who he's texting with that he's getting all riled up, staying hard, and then rubbing against you?
That's another thing that would cause me to rethink that relationship. Get out now for the sake of your child! None of us know what's going on in his head Get off the internet and talk to your guy!
P PetiteEvie lovealwaysmommy Do u think he could be watching porn on his phone while having sex with you??.. I've gotten drunk in the past and passed out while making out with my SO almost having sex but he never had sex while I was unconscious!
That made me respect him so much! Also seriously concerning if he doesn't want to do this when your conscious. Like he's playing out a rape fantasy he has or something. I'd be checking his phone for videos and pics of this and making sure he hasn't sent them to anyone. Then I would have a very serious talk about it. I think you've probably let this go in too ling and need to get control of the situation or get out. Honestly, that would creep me out big time.
Good luck g How do you stay asleep through sex? He is using you as a sex doll. If porn and an unconscious body turns him on that isn't right! I know you're about to have a baby, but you need to get out of that relationship. N Nab Previous posts are right. It's considered rape if you were not awake. And I also agree if he's not willing to ask or wait until you wake up to have sex then would you put it past him to do something to your kid?
And you should leave him if he's not willing to change. And he will probably fight for child rights, so you would have to have proof since rape is quite impossible to prove. If you're not planning on leaving but you might need proof. Women should be respected. And I would be offended if DH said having sex with me asleep is better. But in ever case I wake up and we continue.
One time he scared the hell out of me doing it, but we laughed about it. For us it's just a fun thing. I've given him blow jobs while he was sleeping It's something we do fairly commonly, but more so in the morning, how we wake eachother up. A few times in the middle of the night. But I don't see it as the same thing you are going though. Sounds like he may be sexting and using you rather than his hand to get off.
Least with my man, we do it to eachother as part of what we feel, is healthy sex. I've never felt raped. If I was in your case, I'd feel like a sex doll. I don't believe this How can you stay asleep? How do you NOT go through his phone after all that??
That sounds so creepy he likes it better when your asleep!!! Sorry but I'd be running for the hills. It was always a great way to wake him up or vice versa. However the phone and texting is really suspect. Have you ever checked his phone or search history?! He could be looking porn but it sounds like cheating! He needs to be confronted!!
My husband and I were both into the sex thing, however if this is not for you, m lovealwaysmommy You should talk to him about it and put a stop to it! SirenMommi and I share similar sex lives lol and 2. Sounds like sexting to me too! To be honest you should take this very serious because he cheated on u already n it sounds like he is txt other females n what ever he wants to do with them he is doing it to you while your sleeping..
You sure deserve better than that, you need to think about your baby n a guys like that sounds like he has deep mental problem My X bf would spend the night at my apartment n at 2,3 am I would hear him txting n I would turn around n he would turn away or place the phone under the pillow n one time I woke up to him trying to stick it in..
N to be honest it got me so scared for the fact that he was my bf wouldn't he want me awake holding him responding to his touch..!!! After I woke up I asked him wtf he couldn't say nothing to me so I kicked him out fast forward 3 years I heard he lives with a girl gets abusive with her when he drinks n has sex with her while she's sleeping, n forces her to have sex!!.. Be very careful cuz guys like that end up being sexual predators or abusive..
You can do so much better trust me!!! G Glenop lovealwaysmommy Omg seriously! I have zero tolerance for this type of behavior. I mean it's ok to have sex while your sleeping but I mean it should be in the hope you wake and get into it. However if you wake and then he just turns around I mean that is sooo wierd! I most certainly think he still watches porn and if I were you after all the chances youve given it's like he needs to get help or get out.
That is real creepy and I feel sorry you have to go through that. And lastly check phone records! If you have to call phone company and see if you can get website records make up a story or something because I believe something wierd is going on when hes got his phone while trying to do the deed!
Sorry hun but you need to consider this SO will be around your child and you don't want a creep! Mom-to-be Cardi B definitely feels your pain.