Yet, oftentimes, sex is met with anxieties over performance and sexual positions. Open communication is important to help partners find the positions that will provide satisfaction and exhilaration.
We use these pronouns for simplicity in understanding, but please understand that these positions can also apply same-sex couples!
Missionary — This position involves the receiving partner lying flat on her back while the penetrating partner positions himself comfortably on top of his partner. There are many variations for this position, including putting a pillow underneath the receiving partner's pelvis for elevation and deeper penetration.
This position allows a great amount of control for the receiving partner. For females, it also provides significant vaginal stimulation and clitoral stimulation. The receiving partner kneels over her partner with her back towards him. She can then lower herself down and control most of the penetration. This position provides the most control for the receiving partner.
She may simply rock back and forth, twist her hips in circular motions, or bounce up and down during penetration. A variation involves the receiving partner kneeling over on the bed, instead of the traditional position on all fours. For more novelty, she may try kneeling over other surfaces the couch, kitchen table, etc. The receiving partner lies on her back on the bed with her legs dangling off the edge. Her legs may naturally bend towards her chest.
While the penetrating partner is thrusting, the receiving partner may manually stimulate herself or her partner. The receiving partner may also have an easier time stimulating her own breasts or clitoris during penetration.
For female same-sex couples, one partner may lie behind the other while providing manual stimulation to her partner. The position also allows for increased access to the erogenous zones around the ear and neck of the receiving partner.
This position is great for two females as the giving partner could use a strap-on or other sex toys to provide increased stimulation to the G-spot. The receiving partner lies face down on the bed with her legs straight and hips slightly elevated.
The penetrating partner enters from behind, with his face towards his partner and using his arms to prop himself up. To make the position easier and more comfortable, the receiving partner may place a pillow underneath her hips. The receiving partner may touch her own breasts or clitoris during the penetration. The female sits on his lap, facing her partner and placing her hands on the floor behind her for support.
She then raises both of her legs to rest on each of his shoulders. This position usually involves rocking back and forth and can take some time to get used to. It is easiest when both partners are in sync with the rhythm of penetration. Both partners perform oral sex simultaneously. If a female is on top, she can move her pelvis up and down to control the stimulation of her clitoris.
It involves the receiving partner standing up, while the giving partner kneels down in front of the standing partner to perform fellatio , or oral sex. If the partners are using a flat surface, the receiving partner may lie back in order to relax more. The receiving partner sits on his lap with her face the same direction as his. The receiving partner can control the angle she wants and how fast she wants penetration.
This position is great for G-spot stimulation for the female, and for prostate stimulation for the male. The receiving partner then puts her legs on the shoulders of the penetrating partner. This position allows access to deep penetration and stimulation to the G-spot.
The penetrating partner should initially thrust slowly to avoid causing pain for the receiving partner. For opposite-sex couples, the male usually sits down with his legs crossed Indian-style and his partner sits on his lap facing him, wrapping her legs around his waist. The partners may rock back and forth or bounce slightly up and down during penetration.
However, this is one of the more difficult positions because it requires physical strength from both partners. To maintain balance during this position, it is wise to lean against a wall or other sturdy surface. This position works well in showers, but partners should be cautious at all times because of the increased chance of slipping and falling.
It may be easier to start off this position sitting down on a bed or a chair, then having the penetrating partner stand up once he feels comfortable, and then proceed to move against a wall for better balance. However, there are multiple ways to do the standing leg lift position. The first is to have the receiving partner usually the female stand with her back against a wall with her partner standing in front of her.
Slowly, the female may lift one of her legs up, resting it on the crook of her partner's elbow. Her partner may help her with balance by holding her steady. Having the leg elevated will lead to deeper penetration. Depending on the height and flexibility of the partners, this may not be as easy as the first variation. This position is great for cunnilingus , but can also be used with other sex toys and manual stimulation.
This is a great position for two woman having sex with another, but can be done with heterosexual couples as well. Each couple is unique and adjustments to these positions may be necessary. Part of the fun is to explore and discover what feels better. There are more positions you can find on the Internet or in magazines. Pornography can be a good source to find ideas for novel positions. However be mindful that the porn industry edits and alters the footage to hyper sexualize the act, which can lead to unrealistic expectations of what sex looks like.
It is important to have fun when trying different positions, if neither you nor your partner enjoy a particular position that is completely normal and okay. Effective communication is key when attempting any new sexual activity, as it provides a comfortable environment where you can express what feels good, bad, etc. Exploring these different sex positions is an intimate way to grow closer with your partner and help you both discover what feels most pleasurable. Have fun exploring different positions and contact the Sexperts here if you have any further questions!
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