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The sponsor does not edit or influence the content but may suggest the general topic area. Find out how factors like exercise, diet, and better communication with your partner can help to counter low libido. Low libido, or loss of sex drive, can spur men to visit their doctor. In fact, it's one of the most common reasons men get their testosterone levels checked, according to research in the January issue of the Journal of Sexual Medicine.
Getting your groove back could also stem from exercising more, losing weight, and finding fun ways to reconnect with your partner. Start by Getting the Right Diagnosis Successfully treating any condition starts by getting an accurate diagnosis.
The Endocrine Society recommends that testing be done in the morning, when testosterone levels tend to be highest. Getting at least minutes of moderate-intensity aerobic activity a week leads to improvement in sexual performance and testosterone levels, according to a study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in Similarly, when researchers talked to men about overcoming low sexual desire, they found that having less abdominal fat correlated with improved desire, according to a Journal of Sexual Medicine study published in In a study of obese men with type 2 diabetes, cutting about calories a day by following a low-fat, high-protein, moderate-carbohydrate diet was effective in improving sexual desire, according to research in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in Tackle any substance abuse.
Although research on sexual desire and substance abuse is limited, Dr. McVary says that men with low sexual desire should consider their use of legal and illegal substances, including smoking and drinking more than a moderate amount of alcohol. Quitting might improve libido, he says. Side effects and interactions of prescription and over-the-counter drugs could be contributing to loss of desire.
Talk to your doctor to see if any of your current medications might be affecting your sex drive. Talk to a therapist. Emotional factors as well as physical factors can impact your libido. A loss of desire is more likely among men who have lost a spouse, are unemployed or have low income, or have retired, researchers reported in the Journal of Sexual Medicine in Talk to a therapist if you are having a hard time coping with major life stressors.
Find Your New Intimacy The perceived pressure to be instantly ready for sex can make coping with lost desire difficult, according to sex and intimacy expert Lori Brotto, PhD, a psychologist and associate professor in the obstetrics and gynecology department at the University of British Columbia in Canada. What is arousing for you? Is it touch, visual, taking a bath or a shower? Ask what is appealing to her and whether you would both benefit from working with a sex therapist, suggests Rose Hartzell-Cushanick, PhD, EdS, a sexual health educator and therapist with San Diego Sexual Medicine in California.
Enjoy the time you spend planning your date night and the new strategies that will arouse you. Cuddling, stroking, massage, and other types of gentle touch that connect you with your partner can lead to arousal. When researchers compared the effects of reading a sexual story, fantasizing on your own, and writing down your own sexual fantasy, they found that unstructured fantasy led to the largest increase in desire.
Yet all three options increased desire more than doing nothing, according to the study, published in in the Journal of Sexual Medicine. Can we cuddle for awhile and see how it goes?