Link to the previous thread on the issue. I could always make my girlfriend orgasm quickly under 5 minutes with just my hands insertion or no insertion or tongue. Compared to friends who said "women have orgasms?
But after reading the thread linked above, I decided - why the fuck not. When she came home she worked late , we started fooling around and I decided to try the techniques Hartley outlines - specifically two techniques: I laid next to her and just pinched her pussy - that's all. Just pinched it and held it relatively tight. If I recall correctly, Hartley says in the video that doing this works because you're not really holding still - there are still micromovements. Whatever the reason, it fucking works.
Slowly - like over the course of 10 minutes or so while making out I started slow wiggling movements still with a tight pinch. I'll tell you - I can get my girlfriend off in under 3 minutes with my hands, but watching her with this slow build-up is x more satisfying. She afterwards described it as 'tortuous pleasure'. I sucked on her pussy for about 15 minutes straight - just consistent suction. I didn't have to really do much of anything - I let her grind up against me like Hartley suggests in the video so it wasn't tongue-numbing like oral sex can sometimes be.
It's the most she's ever enjoyed oral sex as far as I can tell , and it's the least I've ever had to work to make it happen. I used to use a combination of I didn't use any internal finger stimulation, only because at this point she was begging me to fuck her. She came within the first two thrusts of sex. And it's one of the hardest if not the hardest she's ever come.
I'm talking like several minutes straight of intense orgasm with more minutes of twitching afterwards. She slept like a baby afterwards, literally curled up with her head on my lap.
The pussy is way sturdier than I thought. I kept increasing how hard I was grabbing her pussy I have a strong grip from farmers walks and deadlifts and I found that it was pretty much impossible to be grabbing too hard. I guess I kind of knew that because we both enjoy fairly rough sex, but for some reason I was always much more gentle with manual stimulation.
Consistent suction on the pussy is a godsend. It's unbelievable how hard technique trumps effort. Treat the clit like a penis. I'd heard it said before that the clit is a minature penis, but I'd never really internalized what that meant for stimulation until watching that video. Thinking of the clit and penis as morphologically equivalent and really stopping to consider what that meant was a real eye-opener.
In closing, I quote another user: I mean, I've received compliments on my hand techniques before, but I feel like I've been thinking I'm Michelangelo when I'm merely a third grader, bumbling with my canvas, sloppily and haphazardly tossing paint on it.