Her first boyfriend was nicknamed Putz, she tells us, and she lost her virginity on a kibbutz not to Putz. A few other details you might not know about Dr. At age 10, Westheimer was taken on a kindertransport from Germany to an orphanage in Switzerland.
Her family perished in the Holocaust. Later, she trained to be a sniper in the paramilitary organization Haganah. In a phone interview from her office in New York, she talked about her books, her philosophy and a bit about her personal life.
This interview has been edited for length and clarity. People are more knowledgeable. Women in this great country have learned that they must take responsibility for their sexual satisfaction. Yet I get a lot of the same questions. The relationship is not good. People bringing their worries into the bedroom. I say leave the worries outside the bedroom door. We know that girls menstruate at an earlier age so we have an obligation to give sex education. Children are exposed to so many sexual pictures.
I want people to have a relationship before they have sex. What do you think of E. I read all three books. It proves my point: Women do get aroused by sexually explicit material. The other thing that worries me: I see couples walking holding hands and in the other they are holding a phone. We are going to lose the ability to have a good conversation. In the Jewish tradition, it says that if that part of the male anatomy is aroused, the brain flies out of the head.
What does it mean? I think people have to take the responsibility that if they are in bed together, they are willing to have some kind of sexual experience. You mention in your book that you once thought you were too short to get pregnant. What are some of the myths about sex that continue to plague people? There are still people who believe in the G-spot.
And there are plenty of other myths that still need to be buried. How did you learn about the birds and the bees?
I do remember as a girl in Frankfurt — so I was less than 10 — a girl explained to me she was menstruating. I saw some pictures of people having sex. People must ask about your sex life. What do you tell them? You started a line of low-alcohol wine. It was very sweet. So, take a drink, relax a little, leave your worries outside your apartment.
I am fortunate that I can walk fast and that I can walk and talk on the phone at the same time. I skied until the age of I mean I am still very curious to learn. I am still teaching. I taught at Yale and Princeton. I go to lectures. I am not satisfied by standing still. I still want to learn. I go to concerts. I am now a widow for more than 16 years. If I could find an interesting older gentleman who can still walk and talk, that would be very nice.
I would be very happy. Nora Krug is an editor and writer in Book World. She also worked as an editor at the book publisher Little, Brown. The story must be told. Your subscription supports journalism that matters.