Different people like to give and receive oral sex in different ways, so take time to explore what your partner enjoys. Sexually transmitted infections STIs such as herpes , gonorrhoea and syphilis can be passed on through oral sex.
Using a condom or a dental dam will help protect you from STIs. Do not have oral sex if either of you has sores in or around your mouth, vagina, penis or anus, or if the person giving oral sex has bleeding gums.
But what is oral sex? And does it come with any risks? Whether you are thinking about having oral sex for the first time or just want some more information — read on for tips on how to have oral sex safely and pleasurably, and answers to some of the most common questions.
What is oral sex? Oral sex can be a good way to discover new pleasures with your partner, but deciding whether you want to do it is a very personal choice — not everyone likes it and not everyone tries it!
Top tips for oral sex A lot has been written about how to give the best oral sex. But the truth is that different things work for different people.
Remember that it can take a while to work out what makes someone feel good. The best thing to do is to carry on communicating with your partner. Ask them to tell you what feels nice and let them know when you are enjoying something.
But remember that you can pause or stop at any point you want, and the same is true for your partner. How do you give a man oral sex?
You can start oral sex on a man whether his penis is erect or not. You can keep moving your fingers down slowly until you reach the point where it feels deep enough inside your mouth. You can experiment with different tongue, mouth and head movements to see what works best but never use your teeth unless asked! How do you give a woman oral sex? Take your time to explore her upper thighs and the area around her vagina first, to help her get aroused. The most sensitive part of the vagina for a woman is the clitoris, which has more than 8, nerve endings.
But the whole pelvic area is very sensitive. Gently part the outer lips of the vagina and look for the vaginal opening, and the hooded clitoris just above it. Start off softly, using a relaxed tongue to make slow movements and work up to faster movements with a firmer, pointed tongue. You can experiment with making different patterns with your tongue and try different rhythms — taking cues from your partner as to what she enjoys most.
How do you give oral-anal sex rimming? If you are concerned about hygiene, ask your partner to wash first - water and a gentle washcloth should do the trick. You could also bathe together as part of foreplay. You can begin by gently kissing and fondling the area around the anus including the perineum the area of skin between the genitals and the anus. You can then work your way in to the anus by circling your tongue around the outer area and finally inserting your tongue.
You can try licking, sucking, probing and nibbling gently — taking cues from your partner about what feels good to them. The risk of HIV transmission from oral sex is very low. The main risks arise if the person receiving oral sex has an STI or sores on their genital area, or if the person giving oral sex has sores in their mouth or bleeding gums. However other STIs such as herpes , gonorrhoea and syphilis can still be passed on through oral sex.
And some infections caused by bacteria or viruses can be passed on through oral—anal sex, such as hepatitis A or E. Infections can be passed on through oral sex even if there are no obvious signs or symptoms of the infection such as sores.
You should definitely avoid having oral sex if either of you has sores around your mouth, vagina, penis or anus.
These could be a sign of an infection, so get them checked out by a healthcare professional. Using a condom or dental dam a thin, soft plastic that covers the vagina or anus will protect you from most sexually transmitted infections. Knowing you have the extra protection a condom provides can help make you feel more liberated and less inhibited during oral sex. Talking to your partner about protection before you start having oral sex will help things go more smoothly.
Should I have oral sex? Remember that oral sex should be fun for both of you. If one person is doing it because they feel pressured, it can sour the whole experience. Deciding whether to have oral sex is a very personal thing. The main things to consider are whether it feels right, and whether you and your partner are both sure.