Now, take a second to picture the sorts of people she has sex with. As far as pop culture and the prevailing societal narrative is concerned, you are correct.
However, in reality, you are very, very wrong. And, while your ideas about what the average trans woman looks like and what she wears are inaccurate, a lot of your mistake actually ties back to who society has told you the average trans woman has sex with. However, many of these misconceptions have their root in one long-lasting misconception: This misconception has a long history that others have covered far better than I possibly can. Still, without going into it too deeply, this misconception is tied up in: This is true for all trans women regardless of whether they presented as gay men in the past or whether they are exclusively attracted to men.
When presented with queer trans women, most people express confusion. In my personal experience, this confusion is often expressed as follows: You know, dresses, makeup, etc.? I have gotten this exact response — delivered more politely, and more obliquely — multiple times. This response is unequivocally better than not engaging, or invalidating the person perceived as an outlier.
After all, it often results in trans women being asked all sorts of invasive questions. The most frustrating part of this sort of curiosity, at least as far as I am concerned, is found in one, seemingly innocent question: Queer trans women are not outliers.
We are the majority. Nearly 28, people completed the survey, which makes it one of the largest surveys of trans folks ever done. As such, I strongly suggest that you read the survey report, released in , over at the US Trans Survey website. As part of the survey, respondents were asked which sexual orientation best describes them. Their responses to this question are summarized in Figure 4. Sexual Orientation — which I have embedded below. The graph breaks out the responses of self-identified crossdressers, non-binary folks, trans women, and trans men.
The Report of the U. National Center for Transgender Equality. Picking out the results of just those that identified as trans women, we have: So, queer trans women are hardly an outlier.
In fact, you are far more likely to meet a queer trans woman than a straight trans woman. Straight trans women are a significant chunk of our community, but they are far from the majority.
We would expect the vast majority of trans women to identify as straight or heterosexual. These messages are harmful to all trans women, even those who presented as gay men before coming out and who identify as straight now.
This is partly because these messages are tied up in bigoted nonsense, and partly because they are just plain inaccurate and mislead people. This can be seen in nearly all depictions of trans women in the media until relatively recently. This is obvious when it comes to older depictions of trans women and drag queens as essentially the same thing. Tim Curry as Dr. Along with this, trans women are almost never depicted as queer, nor are they depicted as desired by other women.
Eliminating something so ingrained takes significant and sustained effort. This is particularly difficult given that many of us do not have direct control or influence on the things that need to change. Like what you read? Clap for this piece by using the clap button more claps, more better. Share this piece with others.
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