A guide to entering the Hotwife lifestyle thecuckoldkingdom So you are now one of the millions of women who learned she has a husband with fantasies about you having sex with other men. Welcome to our club. Maybe you have even reached that point where there is no need for me to tell you how lucky you are. You were living the married life thinking that you knew your husband better than he knew himself. The rut comes to every bedroom. Some of you may have already had affairs or even had thoughts of leaving your husband out of sheer boredom.
Then you somehow found out about his secret fantasy, and hopefully decided that there is a solution for the both of you. He wants you to have sex with another man. But take a moment and think about the potential. See all of those other unhappy women out there in boring, sexless marriages? See all those other women around you having affairs, lying to themselves and their husbands, and risking messy divorces?
They were once you, or could have been you. But now you will end up different from them. You are on the way to becoming a Hot Wife. In fact it will be up to YOU. Some wives play completely on their own, with no interaction with her husband. Others enjoy their husband watching or participating. However, in all these relationships the wife is free to play with others, while the husband remains completely monogamous and faithful only to her. Well believe me when I tell you it is easy to do and your sex life will be better than you imagine.
In this new relationship the husband is often called a cuckold, which just means a man with a cheating wife. In fact his awareness and approval is one of the most important ingredients. Good for you, but you may want some advice. Do not rush it. Having a husband that enjoys this lifestyle is different, so you need to nurture the relationship first and foremost, while moving into the lifestyle slowly.
It might take time before you are comfortable having full on sex in front of him, or he may take time to become accustomed to watching or knowing you are out being intimate with other men.
What you want to do is encourage his desires for you to be with other men, and make it as pleasurable for him as it is for you. If you go slowly and follow my advice, in time you will have a husband that will let you do anything sexually. And he will want you to do more. He will find himself anticipating it as much as you maybe more than you. He will get his sexual satisfaction from YOUR encounters with other men, and most importantly he will be drawn to you like never before, and more in love with you than at any time in your marriage!
In the Hot Wife lifestyle there are three levels of involvement for your husband: You meet other men alone with no involvement from your husband. He may never know them or meet the other men in your life. You meet them on your own, and make all arrangements without any approval from your husband. The other men may or may not know about your lifestyle, or be aware that your husband knows about them.
You meet other men together with your husband, with him knowing them, and them knowing of him. However any interaction between both men is more on a social or perhaps friendship level.
Your husband is not involved in any sexual activities between you and the other man. But your husband is not included in your sexual encounters, except possibly left to hear them via an open phone call while they are happening. In the classic cuckold arrangement you engage in sexual play with your lover while your husband watches, but he does not play at all. This could involve any degree of sex, which all three agree upon.
Some wives prefer their husband be involved sexually and that is your choice. As you will see this will all become about YOUR preferences. Any of these levels can be appropriate, depending on the couple and what they prefer. With proper techniques, a new Hot Wife can quickly learn how to get the most from her sexual encounters AND help her husband find new levels of pleasure from a more passive role than he is likely to have experienced earlier in your marriage.
This takes time though, as most husbands are accustomed to being the spouse in charge. As you begin, you MUST remember one very important fact. Hot Wife is not just about sex. If you are like most women, your husband has been in control so far in your marriage. Well, now you can change that.
Hot Wife is about what YOU want. I know it sounds strange. The change in you by itself will begin to arouse him. After all, you are the Hot Wife! Remember rule 1 - The goal is for YOU to be in control of the sex, not him.
You do what you want; when you want; and how you want; with whom you want and have him go along with it. First, you have to set the groundwork from the beginning. If you do it right, he will be totally faithful and a perfect husband to you, as he learns to get his sexual satisfaction in the lifestyle as a result of YOUR being satisfied. He should have no say in whether or not you jack a man off, or if you chose to screw the entire staff of Starbucks.
He should have no say in whether you go out to another mans home, or bring a man into your bedroom. He should have no say in when it happens, or whom you choose.
Once you allow him to have a say, then you let the control slip back to him. You want to be the one in control. Take control of your sexuality and control that aspect of your relationship for that night.
That is a big part of the excitement for many couples. Share all of the details you wish. The idea that you will go to another man for your sexual fulfillment will drive him crazy with lust for you trust me! Depending on your relationship level, you may want to keep him abreast of your discussions with the other man, share details of your plans, etc. This creates a sexually charged experience for him, even before you have ANY sex at all! If you are having thoughts about calling someone to meet this weekend, tell him.
Let the suspense and excitement build. Share it with him and it will excite you BOTH. When the big day arrives to meet a man, be deliberately aloof and distant from your husband the entire day. Give him some tasks to keep him busy, maybe something that helps prepare for your evening.
Perhaps send him out to buy a nice bottle of wine, or tidy up around the household. Many couples enjoy the ritual of the husband helping the wife prepare herself for a date. You can have him help you bathe or shower, and dry you off. Have him put on your panties and stockings. Doing this lays the groundwork early on. It puts you in charge and creates an atmosphere where he begins to mentally relinquish his rights to you, as part of turning you over to another man.
Doing this also reinforces the new power you have. It will also make the sex more intense between the two of you during the next few days, when he takes charge of you again. If you are having a man over, have your husband arrange the areas where you will entertain living room, bedroom, ect. Light some candles and put on some quiet music as you wait. If he will be present in the bedroom, have him prepare an area off to the side from where he will watch.
Assuming that he remains present, there are certain things you can do to set the tone, and create an unforgettable night for him AND you.
I usually tell the other man to ignore my husband. After the early pleasantries my husband seldom interacts with us at all. The excitement of experiencing a new man sexually, while at the same time turning on the man I love, is difficult to explain but incredibly exciting.
This is a common mistake. Show your desire for the other man by initiating intimacy while your husband watches. Then I walk him into the living room, with my husband either following or already waiting for us.
Depending on the man, I sometimes prefer to have an adult video playing on the TV with the volume turned down, and pleasant music playing lightly in the background. With a nice glass of wine this is a sure-fire way to get things going without much delay. You can linger there if you want, or wildly strip off your clothes and jump on him, or lead him to the bedroom.
Some women like to tease their husbands for a while. Others just like to plop down in the doorway and start sucking within seconds. Do what turns YOU on. YOU are in charge.