Just when her endearingly zany antics had earned your love, she'd go and say something that would make you cringe in horror and all but throw your TV through your window. And this happened about every seven minutes in any given Sex and the City episode. Sandwiched between all that nonsense were wonderful "a-ah!
Bradshaw had just stumbled over a worthy truth plenty of other women would do well to hear. When you get down to it, as Emily Nussbaum pointed out in the New Yorker, Carrie was speaking from an all-too-real place. Love made her "anxious, obsessive and, despite her charm, wildly self-centered — in her own words, 'the frightening woman whose fear ate her sanity.
Sure, she was nuts, but that nuttiness was the result of life experience, and with life experience came wisdom that still rings true today. Don't give up on her yet. Take a closer look at what Carrie was really saying when she was rambling on love and lust. On friendship "Friendships don't magically last 40 years. You have to invest in them. It's like your savings: You don't expect to wake up one day when you're old and find a big bucket of money waiting there. All relationships, friendships or otherwise, do take real effort and investment of time and emotion.
This rings even truer the older we get and the further we drift from friends. On loving yourself Source: YouTube "The most exciting, challenging and significant relationship of all is the one you have with yourself.
And if you can find someone to love the you you love, well, that's just fabulous. As any something dating knows, significant others cycle in and out of your life, but when those dark Sunday nights roll around and you're left to your own devices, the most important thing is being at peace with who you are. On being single "Being single used to mean that nobody wanted you. Now it means you're pretty sexy and you're taking your time deciding how you want your life to be and who you want to spend it with.
But it was when she said things like this that her single fans rejoiced, as opposed to kicking themselves for not having a partner. Being single doesn't mean you're a pathetic, unlovable human; it means that you're in the driver seat of your own life. And that can be pretty amazing. On embracing imperfection Source: HBO "I will never be the woman with the perfect hair who can wear white and not spill on it. But Carrie was under no illusions, nor should we be — her whole being was frizzy, klutzy and a little scattered.
Better that than unattainably perfect. HBO "The most important thing in life is your family. There are days you love them and others you don't, but in the end, they're the people you always come home to. Sometimes it's the family you're born into and sometimes it's the one you make for yourself. The women were each other's family. They're bonds that last longer than a pair of Manolos — and provide more support.
On the delusion of fate "I got to thinking about fate. That crazy concept that we're not really responsible for the course our lives take.
That it's all predestined, written in the stars. Maybe that explains why, if you live in a city where you can't see the stars, your love life tends to feel a little more random. But pondering fate brings us to an important realization: If we don't let ourselves get hung up on something as fantastical as fate, you open your mind and heart to possibilities not dictated by fairytales, the kinds of possibilities we can grab for ourselves.
Knowing you're in charge of your own life is empowerment at its best. On embracing your weirdness Source: HBO "Somewhere out there is another little freak who will love us and understand us and kiss our three heads and make it all better. It's just might take time before you finally find him or her.
In the meantime, don't give up those three heads; they're what make you interesting. On living in the moment "Maybe the past is like an anchor holding us back. Maybe you have to let go of who you were to become who you will be.
Too many of us spend too much time dwelling on the "what ifs. It's tough, but accepting who you are at this moment is what maturity looks like. On breakups "Destroy all pictures where he looks sexy and you look happy. It's only in creating distance from the good times and quitting our obsession over the old images and his new ones that we're able to move on and heal.
These days, Carrie would probably say, "Delete all pictures where he looks sexy and you look happy," plus unfriend him on Facebook. On the messiness of love "I'm someone who is looking for love. Ridiculous, inconvenient, consuming, can't-live-without-each-other love.
Anyone who's ever been in love knows that it's not always easy: It takes effort, and the lengths it requires will sometimes seem ridiculous. But a great love isn't a perfect one, all tied up in a bow. HBO "As we drive along this road called life, occasionally a gal will find herself a little lost. And when that happens, I guess she has to let go of the coulda, shoulda, woulda, buckle up and just keep going. Life is all about bouncing back from the latest bump in the road and not fixating on regret for what might or might not have happened.
On finding a person who loves you for you Source: YouTube "Maybe some women aren't meant to be tamed. Maybe they need to run free until they find someone just as wild to run with.
But beyond the aggressive equestrian metaphors and cheesy music, Carrie's point is wise: If you're with someone right, you'll make adjustments and compromises