Some have just started dating , some are married and some are divorced but all of them are looking to be more sexually uninhibited, free and relaxed. Here are some ideas for getting from zero to fabulous sex. You need to have a discussion with yourself about if you are ready to become more sexual. Take a mirror and see what is downstairs already. How can you know what you want and what feels good sexually if you are unsure what is even down there in the first place? A hand mirror works best to take a look at what you really look like.
Identify your outer lips, your inner lips and find your clitoris. Make it a Priority to Learn the Art of Self-Pleasure Next step, learning how to masturbate and understanding the link between women who masturbate and having sexual confidence. As a grown woman you should think about giving yourself permission to find your pleasure and masturbate when you want. A good place to start is to order a vibrator online and have it sent right to the house.
See, now buying a vibrator is so normal they sell them in the mall at Brookstone, a very normal and non-threatening place!
Lelo vibrators are discreet and come in a variety of shapes and sizes. This brand is also good because it features controls that you can set the speed you are comfortable with so that it is just the right amount of stimulation for you to enjoy.
I suggest purchasing a brand that is small and has a flat surface area on the top so you can use it on your clitoris.
Practice masturbating a few times a week to start and try and work your way up to masturbating or being sexual with your partner every other day.
You will begin developing an appetite for being sexual with better frequency if you are being sexual on a regular basis. You will also begin building sexual self confidence as you learn how your body reacts and what feels good to you. They began looking at it from a young age to feed their curiosity about sex and to learn how to be sexual.
In fact, when you think about it, men are mostly responsible for initiating and leading the sex experience. The best secret for women to understand is pornography can be your friend if you will allow yourself to look. By viewing porn you will understand more about initiating, foreplay, positioning and what people do when they are being sexual in general. You acn also check out the sexuality section at your local bookstore.
Buy Some Sexy Clothes If you are going to get in the mood to be sexual, either alone or with a partner, at least get into the mindset and the role by putting on something proper. No one feels sexy in a spit up scented bathrobe or those dreadful sweats we all are wearing every night. Go out or shop online for something pretty or sexy. Look for something in a beautiful fabric or in a pretty color. Find something that you like and that you connect with.
Drop a hint to your partner in the form of a sexy text or phone call. Tell them you want to clear the calendar for the night and to meet you in the bedroom. Have dinner or a glass of wine together first to have some connection to each other. Then, go to the bedroom, lock the door, light a candle, put on Pandora Radio and go in for the kiss. If you have been using your vibrator and feel comfortable with it then pull it out and use it together. You can either show your partner how you like it placed on you or give it to them to hold and put your hands over theirs guiding it how you like until they get the hang of it and you can let go.
You can also experiment holding the vibrator on your clitoris while you are having intercourse to see if it feels good. Remember you can always turn the speed of the toy down if it is over stimulating to you.
Open your eyes and look at your partner during the occasion to catch their eye. End with more kisses and a snuggle. Be proud of yourself that you did something different sexually tonight. You are coming out of your shell! This will protect your relationship because it is an exercise in trust and bonding that can be so good for you both.
Make it a priority in the future to experiment sexually both alone and together. Having more transparency in your sexual relationship and taking risks with your partner will keep your relationship healthy, strong and exciting.