Adult[ edit ] At the time of the prophet, muslims men and women were never too shy to ask the prophet about all affairs, including such private affairs as sexual life, so as to know the teachings and rulings of their religion concerning them. As Aisha, the wife of the prophet testified, "Blessed are the women of the Ansar the citizens of Madina.
Shyness did not stand in their way seeking knowledge about their religion. The way the ladies asked the prophet-directly or through his wives is a proof that sexual matters were not taboo but were fully acknowldged and respected.
Asma daughter of Shakal asked the Apostle of Allah may peace be upon him about washing after menstruation. Everyone amongst you should use water mixed with the leaves of the lote-tree and cleanse herself well, and then pour water on her head and rub it vigorously till it reaches the roots of the hair. Then she should pour water on it.
Afterwards she should take a piece of cotton smeared with musk and cleanse herself with it. How should she cleanse herself with the help of that? Upon this he the Apostle of Allah observed: Praise be to Allah, she should cleanse herself. She Asma then further asked about bathing after sexual intercourse. He the Holy Prophet said: She should take water and cleanse herself well or complete the ablution and then pour water on her head and rub it till it reaches the roots of the hair of her head and then pour water on her.
How good are the women of Ansar helpers that their shyness does not prevent them from learning religion. I heard the Messenger of Allah blessings and peace of Allah be upon him say: The ruler is a shepherd and is responsible for his flock. A man is the shepherd of his household and is responsible for his flock. He mentioned evidence in the revelation which clearly speaks of that, including the following : Let your legal slaves and slave-girls, and those among you who have not come to the age of puberty ask your permission before they come to your presence on three occasions; before Fajr morning prayer, and while you put off your clothes for the noonday rest , and after the Isha late-night prayer.
These three times are of privacy for you, other than these times there is no sin on you or on them to move about, attending helping you each other. Thus Allah makes clear the Ayat the Verses of this Quran, showing proofs for the legal aspects of permission for visits, etc. Here Allah, may He be exalted, instructs the Muslims that their servants and slaves, and their children who have not yet reached the age of puberty, should ask permission before entering rooms in three situations, the first of which is before Fajr prayer, because at that time people are usually sleeping in their beds.
So servants and children should be instructed not to enter rooms suddenly at these times, because of the fear that the man may be in an intimate situation with his wife, and so on. And when the children among you come to puberty, then let them also ask for permission, as those senior to them in age. Thus Allah makes clear His Ayat Commandments and legal obligations for you.
The Messenger of Allah blessings and peace of Allah be upon him said: That is, separate your children in the beds in which they sleep when they reach the age of ten, as a precaution against provocation of desire, even in the case of sisters. Allah mentioned together the ideas of instructing them to pray and separating them in their beds in childhood, so as to discipline them and obey all the commands of Allah, and to teach them, to show them proper etiquette with people, and to teach them not to put themselves in suspicious situations and to keep away from sin.
When puberty approaches, children should be taught the signs of puberty and the characteristics which distinguish men from women, and the types of discharge that may be emitted from the front passage of both sexes. Munajjid has maintained two as important matters which should begin at a very early age — around the age of three years — that have a basic connection to the issue of sex education.
The necessity for the boy or girl to be able to distinguish between male and female. Confusion between them at that early age could lead to troubles and confusion in concepts, characteristics and actions, in both sexes.
Teaching them this, and bringing them up with it, is a way of instilling in them the characteristics of chastity and modesty, and will help prevent perverts from transgressing against them. It should be noted that what is needed of that knowledge is basically something that is natural and instinctive in the first place, and what you need to point out must be taught to children gradually, in accordance with the stages of their development, by means of lessons of fiqh, study circles and classes in school.
We should be conservative in the words and phrases we use, and attention must be paid to the appropriate ages and stages to discuss this topic. We must also warn against the promiscuous practices of the disbelievers and contrast them with the beauty of Islam, with regard to urging Muslims to cover up and be modest, and to guard their chastity and avoid that which is haraam. Some hadith mentions circumcision in a list of practices known as fitra acts considered to be of a refined person.
Abu Hurayra , a companion of Muhammad, was quoted saying, "Five things are fitra: So, despite its absence from the Qur'an, it has been a religious custom from the beginning of Islam.
However, there are other hadiths which do not name circumcision as part of the characteristics of fitra  and yet another hadith which names ten characteristics, again without naming circumcision; in Sahih Muslim, Aisha is quoted, "The Messenger of Allah may peace be upon him said: Ten are the acts according to fitra: I have forgotten the tenth, but it may have been rinsing the mouth.
According to some traditions Muhammad was born without a foreskin aposthetic , while others maintain that his grandfather Abdul-Muttalib circumcised him when he was seven days old. It depends on family, region and country.
A majority of Ulema however take the view that parents should get their child circumcised before the age of ten. For example, in issues pertaining to marriage , baligh is related to the Arabic legal expression, hatta tutiqa'l-rijal, which means that a wedding may not take place until the girl is physically fit to engage in sexual intercourse.
In comparison, baligh or balaghat concerns the reaching of sexual maturity which becomes manifest by the menses. The age related to these two concepts can, but need not necessarily, coincide. Only after a separate condition called rushd, or intellectual maturity to handle one's own property, is reached can a girl receive her bridewealth.
Signs of maturity for a boy include: A girl may reach maturity from the age of 9 lunar years approximately eight years and eight months and will be considered mature at the age of 15 lunar years 14 years, 6 months and 22 days if no signs of maturity are found. Signs of maturity for a girl: Modesty, chastity and privacy[ edit ] See also: Awrah , Mahram , and Islam and clothing Islam has strongly emphasized the concept of decency and modesty ; besides the lawful sexuality, priority is given to modesty and chastity both inside and outside the marital relationships.
In the hadith literature , modesty has been described as "a part of faith. Dress-code is part of that overall teaching. For example, it has been mentioned, "Say to the believing men that they lower their gaze and restrain their sexual passions.
That is purer for them. Surely Allah is Aware of what they do. And say to the believing women that they lower their gaze and restrain their sexual passions and do not display their adornment except what appears thereof. And they should not display their adornment except to their husbands or their fathers, or the fathers of their husbands, or their sons, or the sons of their husbands, or their brothers, or their brothers' sons, or their sisters' sons, or their women, or those whom their -- right hands possess, or guileless male servants, or the children who know not women's nakedness.
And let them not strike their feet so that the adornment that they hide may be known. And turn to Allah all, O believers, so that you may be successful. And marry those among you who are single, and those who are fit among your male slaves and your female slaves.
If they are needy, Allah will make them free from want out of His grace. And Allah is Ample-giving, Knowing. And let those who cannot find a match keep chaste, until Allah makes them free from want out of His grace.
Before the morning prayer, and when you put off your clothes for the heat of noon, and after the prayer of night. These are three times of privacy for you; besides these it is no sin for you nor for them -- some of you go round about waiting upon others.
Thus does Allah make clear to you the messages. And Allah is Knowing, Wise. And when the children among you attain to puberty, let them seek permission as those before them sought permission. Thus does Allah make clear to you His messages. And as for women past childbearing, who hope not for marriage, it is no sin for them if they put off their clothes without displaying their adornment. And if they are modest, it is better for them. And Allah is Hearing, Knowing.
There is no blame on the blind man, nor any blame on the lame, nor blame on the sick, nor on yourselves that you eat in your own houses, or your fathers' houses, or your mothers' houses, or your brothers' houses, or your sisters' houses; or your paternal uncles' houses, or your paternal aunts' houses, or your maternal uncles' houses, or your maternal aunts' houses, or houses whereof you possess the keys, or your friends' houses.
It is no sin in you that you eat together or separately. So when you enter houses, greet your people with a salutation from Allah, blessed and goodly.
Thus does Allah make clear to you the messages that you may understand. Along with Quran it has also emphasized marriage as a requirement for modesty and chastity.
For example, Narrated by Abdullah ibn Masud, the prophet said, "O young men, whoever among you can afford to get married, let him do so, as it lower the eyesight and guard his modesty and whoever cannot afford it, let him fast, for that will be a shield for him.
It has been mentioned in Hadith ranging about men's and womens private parts that, Regarding women follows: Narrated by Muawiah ibn Haydah, " I said: Apostle of Allah, from whom should we conceal our private parts and to whom can we show?
Apostle of Allah, what should we do , if the people are assembled together? If it is within your power then no one will look at it, then you should try that no one can look it. Apostle of Allah, if one of us is alone? Allah is more entitled than people that bashfulness should be shown to him feel shy more to Allah than to people. Do you not know that thigh is a private part.
Do not uncover you thigh, and do not look at the thigh of the living and the dead. The Prophet Muhammad said : Would any woman tell others what she did with her husband?
It is like a male devil meeting a female devil in the road and having intercourse with her whilst the people are watching. The most wicked among the people in the eye of Allah on the Day of judgment is the men who goes to his wife and she comes to him, and then he divulges her secret to others.
The prophet said, "No man alone with an unknown woman but the Shaytan evil is the third one present. Narreted by Abu Said Khudri: The prophet said, "A man should not look at the private part of another man, and a woman should not look at the private parts of another woman.