So today, I decided to do a best-of-the-best collection of my fifty sex tips for men. My female readers will also benefit from many of these tips, but the focus is primarily on the men.
So guys… Do you want to build greater sexual stamina, please your partner more fully, enjoy more fulfilling sex, and feel more confident and energized day to day? Small hinges swing big doors. Without further ado, here are my fifty powerful sex tips for men. Which is a fancy way of saying that most women take a minute to warm up. One of the highest leverage ways you can improve your sex life is to spend a significant amount of time in foreplay. Also, if you want more ideas on how to extend your foreplay and really bring your partner into her body, check out my article on Slow Sex 2.
Learn how to control your ejaculations by practicing becoming multi-orgasmic Every man has the capacity to become multi-orgasmic, if he knows how to do it correctly. Do at least high intensity exercise sessions per week Men get a massive testosterone boost from doing high intensity workouts. Especially when those workouts are filled with heavily weighted compound exercises i.
Make noise during sex One of the most common complaints that I hear from my female readers is that their partners are too quiet in bed. While the strong, stoic, monosyllabic figure of masculinity might be attractive on the big screen, in real life women want a man who can be expressive and vocal… especially when it comes time to fooling around in bed. Try moaning, grunting, growling, or dirty talking more often in bed. As much as possible, aim to not eat for at least minutes before sexual play.
Go pee at least 20 minutes before sex Taoist sexual philosophy states that men should avoid having sex within 20 minutes of peeing, and I would agree with this sentiment. So by all means, empty your bladder before sex. Just make sure that you take some down time between urination and sex. Eat a diet with minimal processed foods to ensure your body is in top working order As the famous saying goes, you are what you eat.
Cut back on drinking, smoking, drugs, or overly processed foods. Double down on a colourful array of vegetables, nuts, lean animal proteins, and any supplements that make you feel awesome. Want even more specificity on exactly what to eat for the best sex life possible? Use your words Dirty talk is so hot when you do it right. Before sex, tell them what you want to do to them. After sex, tell them what you loved that happened.
To get over fifty, ready to use examples of potent, powerful dirty talk , check out this article. Stop watching so much porn Watching even moderate amounts of pornography has been proven to mess with your mind and ability to perform sexually. Long story short, limit your exposure to porn, if not eliminate it from your life all together, in order to have the strongest erections and healthiest sex life possible.
Avoid her genitals for as long as possible during foreplay Our brains have two kinds of pleasure systems… consummatory pleasure, an anticipatory pleasure. Anticipatory pleasure is what we experience when we are in the state of desiring or craving something for example, the hit of dopamine you get when you see your food being brought out to you in a restaurant.
Consummatory pleasure is the kind of pleasure that we experience when we you guessed it consume the thing we desire food, sex, human touch, etc. Sexual tension and a lot of sexual pleasure is largely centred around being in a state of anticipation. Let your breath and lips do most of the work to begin with and simply graze her skin. Remember… when in doubt, slow down , tease more, and build anticipation.
Wear deodorant and cologne that she loves Your partner is the one who has to smell you more than you do. Find a scent of deodorant and cologne that both of you enjoy on you. Just kiss sometimes Remember when you were in high school and you would make out for hours, and that would be the whole point? How you kiss each other is a good indication of your connectedness. So slow down and really take the time to enjoy each other in a simple, beautiful way.
Press your body into hers. Ask them what those things are and then help them to see the beauty of those things by lavishing genuine praise on those things. Feeling attractive, desirable, and uniquely beautiful is highly erotic. Think of your praise and attention as a bridge that you build to help your partner transition from self-rejection to self-acceptance.
By seeing their body through your eyes, in the short-term, they will come to love their body just as much as you love it. Honour yourself, your partner, and your relationship by removing as many distractions from your environment as possible.
Take out the trash. Invest in mood lighting, music, or essential oil diffusers. To read more about this step, read: Go sex toy shopping together Depending on how you use them, sex toys can amplify orgasms, increase closeness, and add a thrill to your bedroom routine.
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Try some light biting, hair pulling, or spanking with your partner giving or receiving and see what you like. You might be surprised. Go on a vacation somewhere warm together A recent study of 31 million people concluded that your sex life improves when you go on vacation.
So what is a spoiling session? A spoiling session is a magical, sexy, multi-purpose exercise that allows you to gain a deeper understanding of your own sexual needs and the sexual needs of your partner, while simultaneously reconnecting you as a couple and melting away the subtle shame and resistance that each partner may or may not have towards sex in general. If you want to deep dive into this little beauty, you can read more about spoiling sessions here.
Gift her with a sensual massage Ahh, the art of the sensual massage! If you want to give a woman the night of her life and turn her into a blissed-out puddle of love-mush that will be talking to her friends about you for weeks afterward , then look no further than the sensual massage. Everybody likes sex, but the dynamic of a sensual massage is something entirely different. Set the scene, use some coconut oil, start gently, and escalate from there.
Want to read a deep dive article on this topic? Earn more money It has been scientifically validated, time and time again , that you experience a boost of dopamine and testosterone when you make more money. Engage in extended self-pleasuring One of the most efficient ways to have a more pleasurable sex life is to go deeper into your awareness of your own body.
Set aside time to practice extended self-pleasuring. Preemptively remove any distractions phones off, kids to bed, etc. Figure out what your ideal sex life looks like Most people go their entire lives without ever slowing down to think about what, exactly, their ideal sex life looks like. What is the emotional tone of the sex you engage in?
How long do you engage in the sexual play for? What time of day? Is there music on or off? The list goes on. Once you know what it is you want from your sex life, communicate those insights and desires with your partner. And ideally, they do the exercise as well and you can find the most mutually beneficial set of circumstances that meets both of your sexual and physical needs. Do the swirl technique Most men touch their partners in a boring, predictable, linear pattern.
During foreplay especially, use the swirl technique to keep her nerve endings guessing swirling your hands around lightly in an unpredictable, non-linear way over the whole body. Practice the technique in order to build your sexual stamina The Technique is a phrase that I coined regarding the most effective way to masturbate in order to help you last longer in bed.
Imagine your sexual arousal on a scale of One being you sitting at home knitting, and ten being you at the absolute peak of having an orgasm. The technique is the process of arousing yourself, in a rising and falling manner, up and down, between 5 out of 10 and 9 out of Edging is the process of riding your sexual arousal wave on the higher end of the spectrum.
As in, going from an 8 to a 9… then a 9 to an 8. For more information on lasting longer in bed , check out this article. This tip is more about self-acceptance and confidence than it is about committing yourself to working out like a madman in the gym for preparation.
Practice being more vocal during sex Many people find it uncomfortable to make any sort of sound during sex. Stretch more often A limber body is a happy body. And happy, limber bodies make for better lovemaking. The most significant things that you can do to positively impact your testosterone levels are 1 prioritize hours of quality sleep every night, 2 eat a nutrient-dense, whole food diet with ample vegetables and quality fats, and 3 do resistance training weight lifting times per week focusing primarily on heavy compound lifts such as squats, deadlifts, pull-ups, and bench press.
Boost your testosterone levels through these strange, fringe-y techniques On the fringier side of things, here are three testosterone hacks that are considerably lesser known. Personally, I have found it to be very effective at improving my immune system, mental alertness, and sex drive. At the end of your normal, hot shower, turn the water temperature all the way to maximum cold for seconds. Do this a few times per week and see how your sex drive responds.
Twenty-four hours is more than most people can handle, or want to prioritize. A simple way into intermittent fasting is to, x per week, avoid having your first meal until noon. Or, keep all of your caloric intake between a narrow window for example, only eat between pm. Anecdotally, I have experienced this in my life. Within a couple of weeks of using it for 10 minutes per day, I had a higher sex drive, more energy, and enjoyed faster muscle recovery times and deeper sleeps with more ease.