I was a freshman in college, brand new to sex, and all my friends, left and right, were exploring their anal pleasures with dildos. I started college a few months after Grindr hit the app store.
We all quickly discovered sex via the glowing orange icons on our phones. This was my initial understanding of toys: Some toys, like the Ass Hammer see 28 , deliver mind-blowing sensations that a penis simply cannot replicate. Nothing will ever replace traditional sex — sex toys simply expand the experiential buffet of sexual pleasure to its true, limitless margin.
As you begin your toy sexploration, you will find that, although there are endless naughty novelty stores in the world, good toys are surprisingly hard to find.
You could scour the Internet or make expensive pilgrimages to your nearest big city to visit a sexual retailer catered exclusively to gay men — nearly every big city has one — or you could start with this list of 39 sex toys you have to try, some of which are for beginners and others for seasoned adventurists.
Welcome to Toyland, and enjoy the ride. Glass warms as it touches your skin and becomes very slick with lube you can use any kind, silicone or water-based. Even better, clear glass allows you to see the sphincter opening around the toy.
A Good Jack-Off Tool There are many kinds of masturbators and jacking tools from many different brands. Jack-off tools are useful for solo play as well as world-changing hand jobs from a friend. Nipple Clamps There are dozens of different companies that make nipple clamps.
A standard kink supplier like Mr. S Leather in San Francisco has many on their website , but you can probably find some at your local novelty store. I know guys that have used clothespins, but I prefer using clamps designed explicitly for this purpose. The nipples are very erotic parts of the male body and, depending on the guy, very sensitive.
S Leather are sure to rock your world. Double-Ended Dildo Sometimes, you both want to bottom. This smooth, black 18" double-header from Mr. Double-Ended Jack-Off Tool Mutual jacking off is one of the most romantic things you can do with another guy, and these make it easy.
This one from AdamMale toys is one of the few I could find online. These have become somewhat harder to find online, so you might want to nab this one. Get on your knees on the bed, face to face, and stick your penises in.
Kiss, make-out, and take turns stroking each other. Time your orgasms so that you both cum close to the same time, and hold a strong kiss while you do it. This one is made of pure silicone, so water-based lubes are recommended.
If you use silicone lube, wash it immediately after play. Colt Anal Trainer Kit These can usually be found in most sex supply and novelty stores, or you can find it online.
Colt makes great ass play products and plugs, and usually at a pretty affordable price. Playing and practicing with butt plugs will help you get used to the sensation of your anal spinchter muscle opening.
The anal spinchter is what clenches tight when you have to go use the bathroom, and relaxes naturally when you sit on the toilet. Butt plugs are great at helping you learn to do that, and most guys gradually go up in size over time. You may find that the sensation of this muscle opening is intensely erotic — I did.
TitanMen Butt Plug TitanMen not only makes great porn shoutout to performer Jesse Jackman , but their sex gear is well-made and reliable and can be found in most novelty stores. Their butt plugs are a great staple for ass play. Thug Double Fucker Blessed be the three men that first discovered double penetration — DP is one of the greatest gifts that gay men have been given.
The Raw Pup Cock extenders, butt plugs, and jack-off tools are generally considered different kinds of sex toys, each capable of providing hours of fun. A cock extender is typically a sheath around the penis that makes it a "bigger," and we've already covered butt plugs and jack-off tools. These three toys come together in one brilliant design — the Raw Pup. The Raw Pup is very similar to the Raw Dawg, which rocked the sex toy market a few years ago.
I have been a personal fan of the Raw Dawg for years, and only recently learned that Fort Troff distributes the toy from Perfect Fit , one of the most reliable toymakers on the market. Like the Raw Dawg, the Raw Pup is a soft and squishy toy that you insert in the ass.
Once inside the spinchter, it locks in the ass via a bulbed base like a butt plug. It is basically a tunnel plug see 38 that can more easily be used for sex, since most tunnel plugs do not work ideally for fucking. This one is great for the pup in your life. Six Ball Chain Gang This is one of many anal ball chains on the market and a good one to start off with, since the balls are relatively small. The Vixen six ball chain gang, available from Mr. TitanMen Inflatable Wonder This one has been in my toy box for years.
As I mentioned earlier, there are dozens of different inflatable dildos and butt plugs, but this one from TitanMen is one that I can personally recommend , and is great for a beginner.
Most of the ones you find at novelty stores are veiny, much too hard, or will not last long. If you want to buy a dildo, spend money on a good brand and buy one that is designed for ass play. Screwz Tit Suckers Similar in sensation to nipple clamps, nipple suction devices are basically penis pumps for your nips.
Creating equal parts pain and pleasure, these are go-to items for nipple play enthusiasts. You do not have to do BDSM or any other kinky practice to enjoy getting gagged with duct tape — it will enhance vanilla sex and bring your orgasms to a new level.
Duct tape can be found at your nearest Home Depot. Vet Wrap Duct tape is visually very sexy, but it will irritate the skin, leave a glue residue, and rip out hair when you pull it off. It is clingy, so it sticks to itself and pulls off easily. Vet wrap is also great if you want to cover more than just the mouth. I once had my entire head wrapped in vet wrap as part of a fun sensory deprivation scene. You could deplete the stores of vet wrap at your local CVS or buy bulk rolls on Amazon.
Sounding Rods Sounding is a semi-extreme kink that involves inserting small thin rods usually metal into the urethra — the head of your dick. Since these are technically sex toys, they deserve a mention. I would recommend doing it slowly and with a partner, not solo. These flashy Oxballs sounding rods are designed to look like long, skinny gun barrels and are available at roughtradegear. The Pig-Hole Plug is a great fisting accoutrement, and will be loved by piss-play enthusiasts everywhere.
This is basically a tunnel plug that matches the natural curvatures of the anal cavity and feels more comfortable to this writer than standard, round-tunnel plugs. Oxballs Goose Head Dildo This was actually one of my more recent purchases.
I long believed that the only way to train your ass for fisting is to get fingered and slowly work your way up with a patient fister and lots of good lube Crisco. Then a friend in Los Angeles recommended this dildo. This makes your knuckles — the widest part of your hand — as curved and small as possible. Mimicking that basic shape, this dildo is a great practice tool for fistees. It attaches to the wall, so you can get some Crisco and some poppers and slowly back up onto it, or pop it on top of the toilet seat and try to sit.
Go slowly and be careful. Anal hook Anal hooks are hooked metal poles with a metal ball at one end the end that gets inserted in the anus and a loop at the other. Once the ball is suctioned into the anal cavity, the curved metal rod will stick out, allowing the metal loop at the other end to be fastened to arm restraints, neck restraints, etc.
Every movement of the metal rod and whatever it is attached to will be felt in the butt. This stainless steel ass hook from Mr. Parachute Ball Stretcher Parachute ball stretchers are for guys into CBT cock and ball torture and ball stretching, which is the kink practice of stretching the scrotal sac with weights and other devices to make the testicles hang lower.
Check out this one from Fort Troff. Vibrating Metal Butt Bullets You have surely seen these in sex shops where they can be found for pretty cheap. You insert them in the ass one or both — most sets come with two and turn them on. The vibrating sensation alone can be enough to make your bottom orgasm.
Try these twin silver butt bullets available on adamandeve. Speculum Commonly used in medical fetish scenes, speculums are metal devices that you insert in the anal cavity with lube!
Try the Collins Speculum from Kink Industries. Metal Cock Ring Give one to your special guy. A metal cock ring is seen by many as a rite of passage signifying a crossover from novice, soft cock rings to genuine hard play — a somewhat absurd idea, since many guys just prefer rubber, leather, and silicone cock rings over metal ones.
A metal cock ring automatically holds some risk that is not to be scoffed at. You want to make sure the cock ring is not too tight, and have ample amounts of silicone lube ready when removal time comes. Splorch Ovipositor Dildo I recently learned that an ovipositor is a tubular organ through which a female insect or fish deposits her eggs into a male host. There are big fetishes surrounding ovipositors along with aliens, tentacles, and host impregnation. This should not be that surprising, since the whole concept of the face-grabbers from the Alien movie franchise is inherently, darkly sexual.
You insert the dildo, which has a hollow chute running through it, then push the eggs in. For obvious reasons, there is inherent risk in enjoying this item, as there is with inserting anything deep into the anus without a feed, and which you may not be able to get back out. But I think it is better that you know the Splorch exists. You both are in the world, you and the Splorch, and your life is better because of it. Ass Hammer Guy who enjoy anal balls will enjoy the ass hammer — a stainless steel metal ball double-welded to the end of a thin piece of metal.