Alden Wicker Photographed by Natalia Mantini. In fact, studies suggest that, other than than a boost in confidence, larger penises don't afford the men who have them with any extra prowess in the bedroom. Well, that can be learned. But there are some positions and techniques that are specially suited for various sizes of penises even the Kama Sutra touts this. Advertisement So for those of you who have sex with people who have penises, we consulted four experts on the art and science of pleasure: Zhana Vrangalova , head researcher and professor of human sexuality at New York University; Kenneth Play , a sex educator based in Brooklyn who leads workshops on kink and pleasure; Amy Levine , sex coach and founder of Ignite Your Pleasure ; and Alfred Kendrick , a personal trainer who specializes in workouts that improve your sex life.
Forget your preconceived notions of penis size and read on for the positions, tools, and moves you may want to try with a male partner — not despite his small penis, but because of it. And hey, these can totally be tried with a trusty strap-on, too!
The gap between what we learned in sex ed and what we're learning through sexual experience is big — way too big. So we're helping to connect those dots by talking about the realities of sex, from how it's done to how to make sure it's consensual, safe, healthy, and pleasurable all at once.
Check out more, here. She suggests side saddle, which not only allows for full penetration, but helps the penis or dildo make unparalleled contact with the sides of the vaginal walls, writes O'Reilly in The New Sex Bible.
Try having the penetrative partner sit on the edge of a couch in the living room, as the receptive partner lowers their body all the way down over their lover's penis or dildo.
Having sex on the sofa, rather than the bed, is an easy way to "spice things up in the bedroom" — by getting out of the bedroom. Since the anus doesn't self-lubricate, it can be tricky to make sure someone's prepped and ready to enjoy anal — and smaller penises means less stretching is needed, so anal can be more comfortable for the receiving partner. To get into missionary anal position, you first have to warm up the anus properly with liberal use of lube and foreplay involving fingers, butt plugs , anal beads , or all three.
Then, have the receiving partner lift their bottom adding a pillow if needed and maneuver together to find the right angle of anal insertion. Advertisement Illustrated by Paola Delucca Pile Driver This one requires some flexibility and might work better on a carpeted floor. Lay on your back.
Then, swing your legs back and over your head to get your feet close to the ground. Your partner can help by lifting your butt up and over. If you practice yoga, this is the one called " plow pose.
For guys who are worried about their penis size, improving flexibility in the hips is key. Paola Delucca Splitting Bamboo Want to really get the legs out of the way? Plus, you have access to your clit to add a little something extra for yourself with your hands. Then, drop your chest and head to the bed and tilt your butt up in the air — the more you curve your back, the better.
Then, your partner moves his knees a couple inches back so he can tilt his pelvis forward. According to a estimate by Esquire, the average penis size is 5. Also, ask yourself if you truly prefer a larger penis or if that is what you assumed you prefer because of cultural messaging.
It about figuring out what works for your body, and working with that. You likely have them around the house already. This silky system will suspend you at whatever height you choose his hip height, for example without making you dig your tailbone into a hard table. You can hold onto the sides for leverage or lift your legs up and tuck them into the sides. Plus, it allows your partner to easily swivel you around. Vrangalova recommend this tape.
Those kinds of things — being passionate and present — those are based on intention. You just have to want to do them or act that way. To someone who enjoys anal sex, a small penis can look like the answer to their prayers.
Bringing toys into the bedroom is a fun way to mix things up, no matter the situation. You can even experiment with themes — Halloween sex toys , anyone? Then climb on top in Cowgirl. This forces his hips forward, which helps with penetration, Kendrick says. Just keep in mind that a guy should be hard and ready to go before taking this position.
Once your partner stops silently berating himself, he can relax and enjoy you. Plus, a little flattery never hurt, as long as you believe it.
For that, it would require professional help. They just need some compassion and enthusiasm from a lovely partner like you — plus a few strategic positions to help you wake up the neighbors.