It had been a long day. My boyfriend at the time was sleeping on the bed. I started sniffing his neck until a sleepy grin formed on his face. When I knew he was awake, I licked him — a long, sloppy, wet lick up his cheek — then ran to the living room.
I heard him behind me. I was on all fours, shaking my ass on the sofa in his direction. Role play can be spontaneous or pre-planned, and as elaborate as you make it. At its simplest, role play happens when two adults consensually engage in an eroticized pretend game, a shared sex fantasy. And it is not limited to two adults — group role play offers some of the hottest sex experiences imaginable.
Everything in the world can inspire role play. You could do sofa role play and have someone sit on you. Try these 39 role play scenarios for the adventurous gay couple. I am a sex-positive writer and blogger. Like everything I write, the intent of this piece is to break down the stigmas surrounding the sex lives of gay men. Those who are sensitive to frank discussions about sex are invited to click elsewhere, but consider this: For all others, enjoy the slideshow.
And feel free to leave your own suggestions of sex and dating topics in the comments. Construction Workers As I write this, the house next door is being renovated. If you listened to them, you would think a gay porno was being shot outside my window. Lots of laughing and group camaraderie with one poor guy the sub making pained, grunting noises.
Just when I think the mean top is about to ease up, the sound of an electric drill starts, and the guys start laughing again. You know the scenario: Frat Boys The gay porn site Fraternity X has capitalized on the fantasy of frat boy hazing. All their videos have the same basic narrative: Brothers When my ex-boyfriends and I visited new cities where no one knew us, we would sometimes say we were brothers. It was funny sometimes, a lark — other times, it was really sexy.
At the local gay watering hole, we would tell the guys interested in us that we were related and see how many of them believed it. Many guys have a brother fantasy. This is an easy one to role play in the bedroom, and there are endless imagined scenarios available to you: Big brother is visiting home from college and has to share your bedroom for a night. You two are close and like to wrestle, and one day the wrestling goes a little too far when one of you gets excited.
Strangers Anonymous public hookups are rapidly becoming a thing of the past. Our mediated, digitalized hookup culture has all but replaced discreet staring contests in the gym and public cruising in parks and bathrooms. Many formerly cruisey places are more heavily watched now, and your success rate is inevitably lower. Also, some guys have some discomfort with completely anonymous sex.
One solution to all these is to do anonymous role play with someone you know. If you want to play in public, plan to meet up somewhere that you are fairly certain will offer some privacy.
If your fantasy is to anonymously pick up a stranger and take him back home, this is easier: Coach and Player Another common gay porn scenario: For obvious reasons, this scenario works great for group role play as well. Who says the coach only has one MVP? Pup and Handler Like many scenes in the world of kink, puppy play at its simplest is a form of role play. Like all forms of role play, puppy play is as simple or complex as you make it. Some pups — myself included — love the pup headspace and extend it past the bedroom into daily life.
Pups are automatically submissive to handlers. A good pup loves getting scratches, treats sexual or otherwise , and led around on a leash by a handler. And while this is certainly not always the case, handlers are typically tops and pups bottoms alpha pups being a common exception — see number Puppy play is implicitly, if not explicitly, a sex role play, but some pups and handlers have removed the sex aspect of it and turned puppy play into a practice more akin to yoga — a de-stressing activity that frees them from the daily rigor of life.
There can be a therapeutic aspect to adult pretend games, if only because they remove you from your daily headspace and allow you to be imaginative.
We know the positive effects that playing has on children, but few cultures have spaces for adults to do the same. Kitty and Cat Owner This is like puppy play, but the submissive guy acts like a cat.
This features of this role play are endless: Pony and Rider Pony play follows the same basic form as the other pet play types. Human ponies love neighing, wearing bits in their mouths ones designed specifically for human pony play, as actual metal bits will break teeth , and being taken for a ride.
The rubber, latex, and leather gear for pony play gets pretty elaborate and very costly, but I know some guys who have an almost quasi-religious dedication to pony play and are willing to fork over the cash. Beta Pup and Alpha Pup There is nothing more fun than pupping out with another pup, which means barking, roughhousing, wrestling, licking, and rolling around on the bed with another guy that shares the pup headspace.
Slave and Master The range of power dynamics in the world of kink can be explained by placing them on a spectrum. The restrained male patient needs an anal exam from the rugged doctor, who is conspicuously naked beneath his white coat and stethoscope. When sergeant tells you to drop down and lick his boots, you better drop down and lick his boots, private.
The full parameters of the play should be discussed before starting. Some guys might think the idea of being kidnapped and tied up is hot, but after three hours in a closet with duct tape over your mouth, you might feel differently.
In the pre-play negotiation talks, you should set clear limits and boundaries. This role play is one that can be taken to extreme lengths — some guys love getting abducted from a public place and thrown in the back of a car — so you should only play with someone you know and trust not a stranger or someone you met online. Son comes home from college one day and catches his dad in the shower and decides to join. The fantasies are unlimited! He will do whatever it takes.
You might need to carry him. Aretwork courtesy of Fred Lammers. See more of his work here. Baby and Parent Baby role play commonly overlaps with diaper fetish and sometimes scat feces fetish. An adult baby will crawl around, cry, and eventually need someone to change his diaper.
Business tycoon and office boy. Porn Star and Director This one works great if you and your boyfriend like to film yourselves having sex. Strip for the camera as he directs you. This role play obviously lends itself to groups, especially if you like to watch and direct others and be in control. Santa and Naughty Child Christmas role play! While a santa hat and some black leather boots should get you started, a hefty amount of playfulness and creativity is all you need to get on the naughty list this year.
Some guys are wigged out by immediate-family incest scenarios, but cousins? Their whole setup is kind of obvious, and pretty gay in itself: Dawn of Justice movie just hit shelves. As you can see, anyone into incest fantasies has unlimited role play options to choose from.
Married Couple This is only role play if you are not, in fact, married. Everything under the sun — including the sun — can be fetishized and inspire eroticism, especially a married couple as opposed to boyfriends or simply two gay men who play together.
This milder role play involves acting like a married couple before or after sex. Many guys, myself included, love being the third or forth, or fifth for a married couple. Pirate and Cabin Boy All hands on deck! This more imaginative role play goes great with costumes and props. What submissive guy has never fantasized about being the lowly cabin boy on a ship full of rough and restless pirates? The group scenarios are very sexy, and the role play necessitates a lot of rope and a gag — opt for a torn strip of cotton cloth instead of a ball gag.
Teacher and Student The handsome, bespectacled professor needs you to stay after class. Invest in a good wooden or rubber paddle designed for the job.
Firefighter and Rescue Victim You do not need to light your house on fire to enjoy this role play. Hitchhiker and Motorcyclist This is another Tom of Finland inspiration — one that old-guard leather enthusiasts will be familiar with. Grab a pair of daisy dukes and stick your thumb out on the side of the road — your leather-clad biker boy will surely come along and take you for a ride.
While the kinky community has always embraced pushing the sexual envelope, we draw the line at consent. We stand by three tenets: While this misconception is not true, at least for not the international majority of kinky men and women, it is simply a fact that many people fantasize about non-consent scenarios. Talking about them and addressing them goes into murky territory. While you and your boyfriend can pretend that your play is non-consensual, and use bondage gear and other kink supplies to enhance that idea, you should also use safe words and establish and respect limits to make sure that what your are doing is safe and healthy.