Print Article AA A lot of people fantasize about having sex with a relative stranger while their significant other watches with pleased approval, perhaps while also fucking someone they too just met. Fewer people have actually played out this scenario in real life. But not as few as you might think. Todd Claxton knows better. As the owner of lovevoodoo. Although still a relatively underground phenomenon, swinging, or "the lifestyle" as it's referred to by the people who do it, is a populous community composed of doctors, lawyers, school teachers, parents, young people, old people, middle-aged people, and yes, attractive people.
You know, people that you'd actually want to sleep with. Plenty of space for everyone to play. Although single folks swing, the vast majority of the population is composed of heterosexual couples that have decided to play outside the rules of traditional monogamy. Typically, couples get involved when the female partner expresses an interest in being with another female. The inclination to experiment generally grows from there, with most couples eventually participating in "four way matches," that is, sex with another couple.
Lifestyle websites like lovevoodoo. However if you are a couple you wouldn't have any way of knowing what couples are interested and what couples aren't, so a site like ours can be a big help. Although initially reticent, Lee says she "humored" the idea and in her research, came across lovevoodoo.
We talked more openly about our fantasies, and the pillow talk became reality when we went to one of the parties. Parties generally include ten to thirty couples and are often themed.
Lingerie, sexy school girl, sexy rock star, sexy you get the point In and fuck and run," Lee says with a laugh. But mostly, parties commence like any other cocktail party or gathering. The advantage is, if you happen to hit it off with an individual or a couple, the opportunity is there to take it a little further and hook up with them, but that doesn't necessarily happen every time.
Such events happen internationally --cruises to the Galapagos Islands, trips to Jamaica's Hedonism resort, etc. All regions of the country have an active swinger community. Hanging out at the swingers convention. The country's largest lifestyle convention, Naughty In Nawlins, happening in NOLA this July , attracts a crowd of about a thousand swingers between the ages of 21 and their early seventies.
Here, attendees immerse themselves in lifestyle culture and get it on with folks from around the world. Typical matchups include full swaps, when a couple swaps partners, including intercourse , and soft swaps, when the swap action is limited to oral sex.
Girl on girl, the primary point of entry for most lifestyle neophytes, is where the women play but without any contact with other's male partner. Claxton recommends that couples agree to set of limitations and expectations before jumping into bed, or pool, hot tub, etc.
We've made a huge transition from putting our toes in it to being very involved. We hardly have any vanilla friends. Thus, it's not acceptable to disclose anything about "fucking your friends" with people outside of the lifestyle. I have two separate profiles, and I keep those very separate.
Sexuality is the one area most of them are liberal. Many swingers just want to go to a sexy place, dance flirt, have a good time, but at the end of the night, they just want to go home with each other. If you like this story, consider signing up for our email newsletters.