If you lose your train of thought, the best thing to do is talk about how hot your partner is making you feel, and then just let moaning fill the space, according to an operator at PeachBooth. One common way to initiate phone sex is to just ask the person on the other line what they're wearing, because it's a simple but easily recognizable sign of sexual interest, according to an operator at PeachBooth , a phone sex website. The good thing about phone sex is that you always have a partner to help you along if you get lost.
But, instead of just saying, "Okay, your turn," ask them to describe what they would want to do to you. It buys you a few seconds before you have to say something again, and will likely inspire your next topic. If you're at a loss for words, simply name a body part, an action, and how it makes you feel.
Role play doesn't have to involve some crazy fantastical plot line, and you can totally explore things as yourself, Manta says. Phrase scenarios in present-tense so it feels like it's actually happening in real time. My nipples are hard. I feel heat radiating from my legs. My body is craving your touch. If you do lose your train of thought, audibly take a deep breath or two, Manta says. While you're taking those two deep breaths, check in with your body and narrate something that's happening, she suggests.
Although much of phone sex involves noises, you should try to describe all of your senses — including sounds — in great detail. Explain the sensations you're feeling, and your partner might be able to "feel" them, too, Manta says. Talking about how you're masturbating is the easiest starting point for phone sex, according to Manta. And if you're at a loss for words, you could always just say nothing and let your partner listen to the natural sounds of you masturbating.
Take your time, because the longer you have on the phone with your partner, the better phone sex will be. Teasing your partner by telling them that you're "hovering" above or around their genitals will enhance the mental stimulation even further, and make them even more turned on, Manta says.
If there's a kinky sex act that you're dying to try, but are too nervous, phone sex is the perfect time to play out those fantasies. You can bring power play into edging, for example, and bring someone to the brink of an orgasm , then slow down or stop, Manta says. You might also ask your partner to ask you for "permission" before they're "allowed" to orgasm, she says.
Before you start, you and your partner should decide on a phrase or word that indicates that you're finished, Manta says. Choose something that won't break the scene, like "that was so good" or "that was it.