While it may be true that most men absolutely need sex in a relationship, the reason as to why is not what most women think. There are a lot of things men will never understand about women and very few things they will even make the effort to try to, although we might appear interested in trying to follow along, it is strictly our effort to not make matters worse.
Women tend to be more emotional and men logical in their thought patterns. This becomes problematic because the emotion women express is oftentimes the result of assumed logic or logical pathways based off many assumptions.
This is what makes it so hard for men to understand. Us, as men, have absolutely no idea what is wrong or what was said wrong. There is just no way for men to put logic into place to understand why you feel the way you do unless something very traumatic happens, like someone set your car on fire.
I mean, so you ran out of shampoo, why are you laying in bed crying, yelling at the kids, and being short with everyone? And for the love of god, why must it last the entire day? Go get some fucking shampoo from the store and walk it off like a big girl. So where does sex fit into all this? We have figured out, through the ages, that when women are emotionally upset with us or emotionally upset in general, they do not want to have sex at least not with us if we are in a relationship with them.
Therefore, using logic, without having to understand anything else, if you have sex with us, we assume everything is okay. The next part of what sex does for us is obvious, pleasure, but not just pleasure for ourselves. We do it because we need it and we figure you need it too. But we like to do it with you because we like to be good at everything we do, and sex is no exception. There is nothing more gratifying to a man then showing a woman a good time in the bedroom.
When that happens we feel like king of the world. And this leads into another problem. Men like to feel wanted and desired. If men always have to put the moves on or get rejected constantly, it takes a hit into our self-esteem.
We lose interest in you and over time it will destroy a relationship. Something both men and women want but each have different ways to obtain. With men, we like to have everything in balance in the relationship, and sex is no exception.
Sex that the woman is into and participates in, and if she randomly seduces him during the day without his initiation, that makes the relationship 10x better. This will lead to a fight or lack of interest in you and a shitty relationship. It is actually a great benefit that your man wants to have sex with you and finds you attractive and beautiful in that way, it can strengthen the relationship and allow for maximum expression. Whether your partners needs are sexually, listening, cuddling, or something else; if there is a need present in either party to express themselves, it has to be fulfilled.
People get into relationships with an individual because they want to be able to express themselves fully to another human being. There are friends, relatives, and other people that some things you want to express are just not appropriate. This is where the sanctity of a monogamous relationship comes into play. You have a person, that you can say anything to and express yourself privately to in any fashion you want and they can do the same in return. I think a simple way to say that is the word compatibility.
First I want to point out that you can be in a relationship where there is no sex and be happy. Some people forgo the full intimacy part and are in reality just close friends. This will lead to him eventually finding someone, even by accident, that he becomes sexually attracted to. If this is the case, its all sacrifice on his end, and how much sacrifice he will make depends on the person. They are not physically or sexually attracted to you.
They are sexually attracted to you but suffer from too much emotional stress and damage caused by you. When men are stressed out they are unable to perform or have a desire to perform or are not interested. Low sex drive is often the beginning of larger more serious conditions in men. You are too demanding or they feel inadequate when having sex with you. This is either because you expect so much all the time or make the expectations so high that the man is stressed out or pressured.
Encouragement always works best to get what you want. Too much of a hassle. The right time should be when one or the other person wants it, not some scripted event that happens at night after the children go to bed. Men will just go ahead and take care of it themselves and be done with it. We can pleasure ourselves rather quickly and move on with our daily activities.
Yes, we can do the quickies and satisfy ourselves on more than just the occasion and be okay. But men are not cold-hearted and will want you to be passionate, interested, and participate in the activity; hopefully resulting in pleasure for the woman as well. If this does not occur, we lose complete interest and stop trying.
Since I hinted at masturbation I want to go ahead and make a note here for you. If your man is masturbating but is still interested in you, leave him be, he might be practicing for you. Sometimes even if nothing is wrong men just masturbate for the hell of it.