You will probably give up on some part of it at some point. Go back to it. Get with it, get to know yourself and others. You can take this back. There is nothing that cannot be reclaimed. Say it over and over. Aug 06, Thilardiel rated it it was amazing This is an excellent resource for survivors of childhood sexual abuse. One word of caution: The writing is concise, which tricks the mind into thinking that these concepts were easily developed and can be worked through quickly. Allow yourself time to work through each idea, each new exercise.
Maybe each exercise takes you a week, or more, to work through. This book is about learning self-acceptance, being fully present in your body, and healing. Build a safe This is an excellent resource for survivors of childhood sexual abuse. Build a safe space for yourself before you begin this journey. I strongly recommend personal therapy with a licensed clinical therapist, and if you can find someone in your area who is certified, a sex therapist, while reading through this book.
I am training to be a therapist, and as such, am more likely to recommend them for almost anyone. The author frequently makes this recommendation throughout the book, so it is worth looking into.
Most women in the US, and their partners Shelves: It's a thoughtful book that encourages you to question your preconceptions, your fears, your desires, and how to navigate pleasure through that murky terrain of contradictory impulses that accompanies sexuality for most of us, I feel. It doesn't offer universal solutions but teaches how to examine your own situation clearly and with compassion. And you don't need to have suffered childhood abuse t I don't like self-help books because they tend to trivialize human experience.
And you don't need to have suffered childhood abuse to find this book relevant - so many of us could benefit from examining our fears and assumptions about sexuality, voice, agency, and consent. I like that this book is written from a feminist, sex-positive stance, and I particularly like the distinctions she makes between safety and comfort and learning how to work with triggers.
I think we all find our own path in healing, and some of these exercises didn't appeal to me, while others were compelling enough to try. Definitely a book to be kept on the shelf and returned to as a resource.