It works just great and I love it. This brings me to what I feel is one of the most important parts of enjoying sex as a fat woman: Your partner knows, and guess what? He or she wants to have sex with you. Sometimes that made me feel more at ease, but mostly it became tedious, distracted me from feeling sexy, and annoyed the crap out of my partner who just wanted to see his hot girlfriend naked. It took me a long time to realize that my partners were having sex with me in part because of the way my body looks, not in spite of the way my body looks.
This understanding is not something that happens overnight for most of us. Hell, it can take years. Really, this goes for men and women of all sizes, not just fat women. You owe it to yourself and your partner to trust that he or she really desires you and to do the best you can to keep that in mind when you find you have a hard time letting go and really being seen during sex.
As a good friend of mine put it: In our culture we have been taught to dread being able to pinch more than an inch and to be disgusted with our muffin tops. That is the time to celebrate its capacity for giving and receiving pleasure. The love handles you might hide under hoodies during the day should come out at night in all their glory. First, get some big, firm pillows. Next, find a firm, yet springy surface to do it on.
Pillow top mattresses and memory foam tend to not be as easy to have sex on since you sink down into those surfaces instead of bouncing back. Next, get some decent water-based lubricant, just in case. The vagina is inside of the body. Fat women can have more padding around the vagina on their mons pubis and labia than a thin woman, creating a potentially tricky situation.
Most people have trouble with those positions. I believe that as long as your partner is GGG , the two of you will be able to experiment in a productive, positive way. Missionary Depending on the size difference between you and your partner, missionary can be either no big deal or a bit of a challenge. First, get those pillows out. Put a pillow under either the small of your back or right under your butt.
Second, draw your knees up and pull your thighs toward your chest. This will give your partner optimal thrusting room since this positioning moves your thighs out of the way and really opens the vagina up for deep penetration. Plus, these simple modifications on missionary allow you more room to really feel your partner thrust! Once he began moving me around a bit, I found I could really get a hold on him and we both started having a really good time.
First, know you may need to move your fat around until it feels comfortable. Same with my thighs. This will give you lots of control. Another issue many women have with being on top, other than the fear of crushing their partner, is mobility. If you find that you become tired, allow your partner to hold you still and do all the thrusting from below!
Finally, once I figured out that thrusting down on my partner was actually easier because I was fat, a whole new world opened up! Yes, I said easier! Kind of like this. Doggie Doggie is a favorite fat sex position because it gives your partner plenty of room to work with, plus the belly is out of the way. Personally, I do not find being on all-fours-doggie as easy as a modified doggie where you place your head lower than your behind, like this: I highly recommend it.
Big Big Love- A sex and relationship guide for people of size and those who love them. I would also love to hear from the community here at Persephone. How have you made fat sex work for you? What do you enjoy about it? Please feel free to share for those readers who are struggling with this issue.
Because my area of expertise is limited to sex with size difference as a female bodied woman with a vagina, I chose not to explore other areas of fat sex, such as the mechanics of two fat people having sex or trans fat sex for women without vaginas. I welcome all here with that experience to speak up and contribute if they feel comfortable. View all posts by msvaginascience Posted on.