Dave Asprey September 3, Disclaimer: On the other hand, if you master your motivators, you can redirect the energy behind them as you see fit. But what about that third one? Sex is one of the most powerful drives you have. This article will talk about mastering your sex drive, as well as how you can take your sex life to the next level. Get off porn The Internet is a wild and woolly place. A click of the mouse gives you access to millions of naked, improbably attractive people doing any sexual act you can imagine, no matter how crazy.
And you can switch to a new person whenever you want. It responds to porn much like it does to cocaine or alcohol — a big rush of pleasure, with diminishing returns over time [1,2].
And like with addictive drugs, porn seems to cause tolerance. They turned to more intense scenarios to get them off. Quitting porn can reset your arousal and get you back in touch with real, intimate sex. Not convinced that porn is that big a deal? Try ditching it for a month. It might be more difficult than you expect. But, guys, there is a way you can increase the size of your equipment.
Male deer exercises strengthen your pelvic floor and the erector muscles in your penis. That gives you better ejaculatory control, staves off ED, and — in my experience — makes you bigger. You can also try stem cell injections to increase length and girth.
The standard expectation with sex is a beginning, middle, and most prominently an end: That formula has a couple shortcomings. The first is that it makes sex repetitive. The second issue is setting climax as a goal.
Focus on getting to the end, and you tend to miss out on the buildup. Taking away the goal of orgasm gets you out of your head. It frees you up to focus on the connection between you and your partner. With that comes more oxytocin, more bonding, more fulfilling sex, and more unpredictability. Orgasmic meditation is a powerful way to become more attuned to your partner and yourself during sex.
Drop your goals and enjoy the moment. It makes sex much better. Boost your sex drive with maca Maca is a Peruvian root that grows on the barren slopes of the Andes. In one study, researchers gave 57 men either 1.
Participants in both maca groups reported heightened sexual desire . Research in both men  and women  found that 3g of maca daily counters decreased libido from taking antidepressants.
In men, maca also increases sperm count and motility  and can reverse mild erectile dysfunction . Always use gelatinized cooked maca.
Take 3g daily, blended into your morning coffee, or take an extract. They support your hormones and relieve stress. Orgasm floods your system with estrogen  and oxytocin [12,13]. A lot of that buzzy, warm afterglow you get with your partner post-sex is thanks to oxytocin.
Estrogen enhances oxytocin, too . The two work in synergy when you orgasm, creating a cocktail of feel-good bonding and relaxation. On top of that comes a drop in cortisol, which relieves even more stress, and an increase in serotonin, which boosts your mood . Men also get a larger post-ejaculatory dip in dopamine, which explains why a lot of us feel a little depressed after the act. Men benefit from ejaculating less.
Not too fun from a pleasure standpoint, but it presents a powerful opportunity for biohacking: Abstinence for 3 weeks increases testosterone in healthy men . Sex-related thoughts boost it too. I had a lot more of both when I abstained — my sex drive was off the charts. Abstinence can also lead to greater life satisfaction and, oddly, more attention from women.
No studies for these, but there is a lot of personal and anecdotal evidence. Controlling how often you climax can also lead to unprecedented motivation. His ambition and productivity went through the roof. He credits his success to abstaining. I had a similar increase in motivation. I tried three different ejaculatory control experiments: The number you get for X is the number of days you should go between ejaculations. A year-old man, for example, would ejaculate every 8 days.
I followed this equation for several weeks, tracking my perceived quality of life and sex drive. Both were significantly higher when I was only climaxing every 8 days. The day challenge Go a full month without ejaculating, but have as much sex as you want, with yourself or with a partner. Just stop before you finish. This one is difficult to do.
I also got the most benefits from it. I saw the highest increase in life satisfaction, my sex drive went through the roof, and I was phenomenally productive. The normal day challenge is tough. This one is much, much harder no pun intended. With monk mode, I still got happier and more productive as the 30 days went on, but the increase was smaller than it was with the normal day challenge.
I also saw shrinkage. Use it or lose it, I guess. Fortunately, the length came back when I started having sex again.
Ways to make ejaculatory control easier HRV training teaches you to consciously control your parasympathetic nervous system, which lets you regulate your fight-or-flight response. Have someone else hold you accountable.
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