What do I do while on the bottom during sex with a man? October 9, 4: I have no idea what to do when I'm on the bottom or top for that matter, but that seems easier to research. I make noise, play with his hair and bite his neck if the position allows it but a lot of the time his head is too far up and blocks me from moving mine - probably because I'm short.
I've tried doing kegels but that makes him slip out. I run my hands along his back and do a little scratching, but ultimately it feels like the things I'm doing are underwhelming and I'm just kind of laying there. I've tried getting tips from porn but honestly, at least on the websites I visit, most of the straight porn only allows a few seconds of that to pass by before there's a disgusting angle or shot or whatever. Google only suggested things I'm already doing, and talking to him about it hasn't yielded any fruit because he's kind of closed off about it, sooo All of these things will change angles, tensions, shapes of orifices, and so on.
You'll probably find some new and enjoyable combinations. Keep trying on that score as well. Ask for constructive feedback, and accept it without annoyance.
You may want to try altering your leg position, to for example, allow gripping his torso, locking your ankles and pulling him into you, etc. You can also try to be verbal, not just noise, but encouragement and dirty talk. Porn is about a camera viewing the action, not necessarily enjoying it. It might not be the best choice for positions. Try a well reviewed sex manual if you want something like that. That said, if you want to be on the bottom, have you tried him entering you from the rear while you are on your hands and knees?
You can use your limbs to move, arch your back, push backward, etc. You can also potentially kiss him. You may find it helpful to have a pillow under you in this position. You can also touch your own body. Porn is about what looks good to someone watching, instead of what feels good to someone doing. Really, the sexiest thing you can do is enjoy it. Almost everything else is secondary. That's not an all-bad approach, but it's unbalanced. Find which positions and variations you enjoy.
If you want increased clitoral stimulation, you can pull him up or scoot yourself lower in order to have his hips slightly above yours so that his penis moves back and forth across your clitoris while he's thrusting. This variation is similar to the coital alignment technique. You can move your hips to maximize the contact. Lifting your legs to wrap them around his lower back will help create deeper penetration.
You can also try variations that allow for the use of a vibrator. Missionary is nice because you have the option of looking into each others eyes, kissing, and touching.
But, the key is that you're both enjoying yourselves. Concentrate on your own pleasure as well as his and he'll be able to see that you're genuinely having a great time. Touch yourself and touch him to find out which sensitive spots he likes stimulated neck, nipples, back, chest, face, butt. Work on communication, every pairing is different and you both have to figure out what combination of things are optimal for you two.
Put your legs over his shoulders. Play with your boobs. Some guys like nipple play too, though usually a little more firmly than what you'd be used to with women.
Grab his ass if you can, slap it. Move your legs around to find an angle you like. Grab his hair, stroke his hair depending on what he likes. If you are not loving the position or it's getting repetitive I'd check out some sex manuals to find some ideas. Play with his balls if you can. Also, when she reaches down an diddles her clit while we're fucking Not so much as specific acts to be performed, but in that when she does it signals she's enjoying herself as we fuck.
Cosigning the mention above of "Take an interest in your own pleasure". Focus on what you find physically pleasurable and follow that. A lover who is enjoying themselves is sexy. A recent, non-porn-angle position we;ve been enjoying is what we call "Half-revolved scissors". She lays on her side, top leg bent, knee forward.
He straddles her straight leg on his knees. Quit convenient for penetration, height differences not much of a matter, everyone's hands are available, he can sit back and take in the view while still thrusting Follow what your body tells you is pleasurable and do it while fucking your boyfriend.
Rich rewards will follow. I'm a tall guy, if a woman -- esp a short woman, and from my seat in the house most all women are short women -- if a woman is on the bottom all I'm seeing is pillow, the headboard of the bed, whatever. Small wonder he's not talking. Plus, if she's on top, I can see her face, which is sure nice, and I can, like, talk to her and stuff, tell her how fucking beautiful she is, tell her how desperately happy I am to be in her bed, how lucky I am to be with her, to be holding her, and to agree with her that yes, her mother is wrong about something or other, whatever.
So give this guy a spin and jump his bones, claw him a little bit -- that'll get him talking -- and see how that all works out. He is, we all hope, very into seeing your pleasure and knowing that he is playing a role in it.
Especially if this gets a more pleasurable angle for you. Or makes you feel sluttier, I feel a lot more like a sexual being when I've got my legs up over my BF's shoulders, spreading myself wide for him. Claw him, if you and him enjoy pain. Hell, sometimes I'll claw myself when I'm getting fucked.
Are you enjoying what he's doing? Maybe in words, maybe in animal noises. Wait wait stop oh god yes. Move up a little? Grab his ass and pull him as deep into as you can. Maybe do some of those kegels while he's stopped like this. If you know Morse code then try sending him a message this way. There's lots of ways to be "on the bottom" that don't involve just lying there immobile and being fucked. Be safe and sane, use a safeword, etc. Grab the bedframe and use it for leverage to push back at him when he thrusts.
Tell him how what he's doing makes you feel. Use those direct, short, Anglo-Saxon obscenities. Or use highfalutin' Greco-Latinate words, that can be fun too. That can also be silly, and may end up making the copulation pause for laughter. Which is not a problem IMHO. Heck, make him stop in the middle of things. Just because you can. Make him be there with his dick buried in you and just meditatively savor that sensation without words or motion for a bit.
After a bit of this ask him to deliver a brief lecture on his field of specialization. E start squeezing him inside you while he's talking. See how long he can keep his composure. Basically, be a greedy bitch who wants to have an orgasm, do what makes that more likely to happen.
You're in bed to have a good time together, stop worrying so much about his good time and play around with your own. He doesn't have a female body, so tell him what to do to put you over the edge into a screaming orgasm. You need to try different things until you find something you really enjoy, and make sure you're both into whatever that is.
Positions, toys, things to do, things to say. Not the unrealistic stuff that happens in porn. Remember why you're doing it - to make each other feel good, don't take yourself too seriously, and other derivative advice. Pillow Talk Mad Libs: