Here is an entirely overly-analytical, and mostly-satirical-but-kinda-true-too guide to the levels of eye contact and what sort of attraction it means. In the heights of sexual intimacy, Level -1 is subterranean. Level -1 eye contact can also occur within a conversation. No Eye Contact Unintentional An unintentional absence of eye contact signals a lack of knowledge you exist.
The key here is that he or she is not aware of your eyes meeting and therefore nothing is registering to them as particularly interesting or enticing in that moment. This is when your eyes and theirs happen to meet and then they look away immediately, except they look away consciously, whether it be shyness, awkwardness, or disinterest.
Body language studies claim that a person who breaks eye contact with you by looking down is intimidated i. I have no idea if this is true or not. Most people are not comfortable holding eye contact with strangers, what would signal the interest here is that their eyes were drawn to you in the first place.
Differentiating between Level 2 eye contact and Level 1 eye contact is subtle and hard to do consistently with any sort of accuracy. Although you do pick up some acuity over time. A good exercise for someone who is new or shy is to practice never breaking eye contact with people before they break it with you.
Walk around all day and make eye contact with people you find interesting or attractive. Keep doing it until it feels natural. It will help your confidence. Glance and a Half Level 3 is the first level where interest is conveyed, ever so slightly. Like the other lower levels of eye contact, the glance-and-a-half is subtle and difficult to notice without a lot of practice.
Humans are wired to spend more time looking at things they find attractive on an unconscious level. It took me a while to start picking up on Level 3 eye contact. Any eye contact from Level 3 and should be a strong incentive for the two of you to at least have a conversation. Any time you make eye contact with someone attractive and they look away, keep looking at them for another few seconds. A percentage of them will look at you a second time.
Either way, just goes to show how most people are off in their own little world not thinking about any of this stuff. This is a solid seconds of eye contact without them breaking it.
The gaze is a clear and large sign of interest. The Smile The sixth level of eye contact is The Gaze plus a smile. The Eye Fuck This is someone who makes eye contact, holds it, smiles, and then never stops. They just keep staring and smiling, and staring and smiling, sometimes for minutes at a time.
When undesired, the eye fuck is exceedingly creepy. Dreamboat The dreamboat happens when someone has fallen for you. Usually, it starts happening after a month or two into a new relationship, although it can happen in as little as a couple nights together or in rare circumstances, one.
Assuming the feeling is mutual, the Dreamboat is amazing. Centuries of literature and million-dollar films have thrived off of what the Dreamboat stare signifies. So when you find it, enjoy it. Unrequited love is no fun for anybody. Nobody likes to break a heart and make those eyes cry. The Crazies The 10th and final level of eye contact cannot be explained as much as experienced.
Or the guy who carved your name into his arm as a birthday present. The Crazies signify delusion, hopeless emotion, and the complete loss of a grip on reality. The Crazies often come with a restraining order. People who have seen The Crazies and lived to tell about it do so with a level of humility and despondence.
Most have dealt with their share of irrational and dramatic relationships. Some have perhaps witnessed The Crazies for fleeting moments — an enraged girlfriend who ran around at him with a baseball bat, the guy who left her 43 angry voicemails in one night — and these people pass these stories of insanity around almost as a badge of honor. But those who have seen the depths, looked into the eyes and seen the true amorous insanity behind them, like any true veteran they prefer to keep the pain and horror stowed away in their hearts, not to see the light of day.