Why men stop having sex 4 April — I've always argued back, telling the male readers of this column that it doesn't have to be that way, that coupled-up folk will actually have more and arguably better sex than their single mates.
After all, it's available night after night, and the more a pair get to learn about each other's likes and dislikes, the better things in the bedroom will be. But perhaps I've been proved wrong.
According to the findings, which canvassed the sex lives of men and women who were married, living with a partner or in a relationship, most weren't exactly as satisfied in the bedroom as I had expected. In fact most men 54 per cent and nearly as many women 42 per cent said they were unhappy with the frequency of sex in their relationships. Men between 35 and 44 who had been with a woman for six years or longer were the most likely to be unhappy with how often they had sex.
Advertisement "The majority of people in the study would prefer more sex than they've been having," said Anthony Smith, professor of public health and deputy director of the Australian Research Centre in Sex, Health and Society at La Trobe University in Melbourne.
Dr Smith says it's that couples are not finding enough time for sex. The experts suggest couples should talk about it, schedule it in and work out how high on the priority list it is for both parties. But whose fault is this absence of sex? While most would blame the woman, after all, we do have a lower sex drive and less testosterone , contrary to popular opinion, it's not always the fairer sex who shoves off her man, rolling over and preferring to get some shut-eye to some hanky panky.
And they discovered that - shock, horror - it was the women who often complained that, indeed, their men just weren't up for it any more. And there were plenty more like that.
So, is he having an affair? In fact, just recently, I interviewed an American private eye who specialises in infidelity. He told me that often when a man is having an affair, he actually get more randy and adventurous in the bedroom with his partner.
He revels in his ability to do them both. And so she has no signs that he's having an affair, other than the lingering scent of perfume on his shirt if he isn't careful. The men interviewed for the book gave 22 reasons for not having sex and rated them from one to The next few reasons mostly put the blame on their partners, too: She doesn't seem to enjoy sex. I'm angry at her. I'm interested in sex with others.